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liesnalibis wrote: Midna wrote: liesnalibis wrote: I think it's a lot easier to be feminine because you really don't have to anything to be feminine. Guys are expected to act a certain way though. We're expected to be perfect all the time while dealing with hypocritical standards, unnecessary policing of our bodies, unspoken responsibility of the male in cases of sexual violence, and dichotomous standards in general to balance, all with less pay and we don't have to do anything to be feminine? Feminine as in woman-like? No, we don't have to do anything. "Is it hard to be perceived as feminine?" is a totally separate question to me from "Is is hard being a woman?"

Then forget my previous post. However, I think I still do partially disagree because inherent femininity seems to be subjective, especially by race. Like take us for example, we are stereotyped to be masculine and all sorts of demonizing thing because we are black women. While black males are hypermasculinized and celebrated for such reasons, black women are perceived to be masculine and aggressive females thus making us undesirable. Even though it's evident this is such a stupid assumption to make with all the feminine black women out there, we're expected to fit a masculine box.

Even to the feminine black women out there, let them show any sign of life outside their portrayed femininity and they immediately get dismissed as masculine and deemed typical. Because of these expectations by default, black women have to do twice as much to be perceived as feminine. So to say we don't have to do anything to be feminine, I can't say I fully agree.

Maybe to a white woman or even an Asian woman, perceived femininity would require very little to be achieved. But that is certainly not the case for all.

Hmmm, good discussion.

I think it's harder for women to be maintained