PG I knew from the first post that your ire was directed at someone you know personally. But in your sweep you categorized a bunch of women who post on this site daily who are NOT your cousin.
Just in general on this topic I have told my story many times but I'll say again I was asked twice by son's father to marry him but it was not something I was willing to do. There are mothers here who were ready to have children and at an age where it was quickly becoming a fading dream. There are divorced mothers who left abusive relationships for a better for life for themselves and their children. There are mothers here in committed, loving relationships with their partner but they don't feel that marriage is necessary to validate their family unit.
My only point in all this typing is everyone responds to this thread topic based solely on their personal experience instead of thinking about the fact that this phrase was likely coined as a way of diminishing the significance of a specific type of unwed BLACK mother. Then on top of that 50-11 people want to come in and staunchly cling to the idea that the mere act of not being with the man who fathered your child makes you that very disrespectful and derogatory term. Of course children need both parents in the home but do y'all live on a
planet where that is in fact the way the world is. Is there some
magical sh*t that binds a man and woman together regardless of how well
they function as a unit? LMKS so because it always breaks my heart when
couples break up. I would give that sh*t away for free.
Y'all can't cling to that sh*t and say it is what it is. Your opinions don't make it a fact. Your moral center of confucckery doesn't make it a fact. If the mother of a black child has already said she finds it disrespectful why hold on to that sh*t like it came straight from the great book of "sh*t I know for a fact"?
Because it conveys your
level of respect for that woman. It is a badge of honor that women carry around. Good for them. If it helps quiets the mistakes and poor choices that have
been made by those women I am happy to be the poster child for sh*t they didn't do. I'm here for that but let's just call it what it is and stop trying to act like we're sticking to the Webster's dictionary for the sake of educational purposes. FOH. People need to grow up. Its childish and outdated and ignorant at the same time. I give zero fcks about what the assessment of me as a person is based on my experiences but its funny that y'all knowingly come in these threads saying outlandish sh*t trying to get a rise out of single mothers who might feel some type of way. Nobody just started posted here yesterday
And with that said - oh how the (high and) mighty fall.