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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote india100 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Mar 26 2014 at 4:37pm
Originally posted by StylingArabella StylingArabella wrote:

That term dehumanizes both parties being talked about IMO. By saying "Baby momma" you are simply stating that the women involved is nothing more than an object that bared YOUR child and that the "baby" is simply a result of sleeping with that objectified women not your daughter, son, or child's name. Trash and deflection if you ask me.

Re wording the pharse is more pleasant such as "That's the mother of my child", "She's my son's mom", or "That's Carol..she's Jane's mother"...hell "that's my Ex" is even bettter.
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Thank you ducky.  Being extremely adamant about the term basically demonstrates the disdain.  That sh*t aint even hard to see or understand.  Duly noted like a muthaphucka in factLOL
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So circumstances change the meaning, welfare seeking hoodrat is a baby momma but a working uppity woman gets a pass?

Okay

Just for the record I think the word is tacky.

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Originally posted by Princess Grace Princess Grace wrote:

So circumstances change the meaning, welfare seeking hoodrat is a baby momma but a working uppity woman gets a pass?

Okay

Just for the record I think the word is tacky.



From what I've seen the only circumstances required to be called baby momma is mothering a child while unmarried and/or being the mother of a child whose father you are no longer married to. 

We have terms for everything in the hood and they get redefined to suit our liking or to communicate the level of self worth and/or value in society we assign to the people we're giving our opinions about.   Apparently they are also meant to communicate our world view on that persons actions and decisions.  Like the words thug, hoochie, jump off, etc.    They are directly tied to that opinion one has of that person.

Unless we're trying to talk about the term baby momma as if we individually coined the term and have exclusive trademark rights to determine how it is used in a sentence.  If not its whatever anyone black (and I guess yt now too) says it is. 
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I just asked someone what he would consider me if we had a baby in a year... he asked if we would be married. I said no, he said he refer to me as his baby mama. I smh and he said, were not married right. I asked why not your child's mother/ ex? he said.. were not married.

He was so serious..
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I guess it takes to long to say my son's mama, or mother if you fancy?
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The only thing worse than hearing a man call a woman a baby momma...is hearing women proudly refer to themselves as that....or aspiring to be that. You can be a proud single mother without identifying yourself as a "baby momma". That's what so many women don't understand. That's why that "Baby Mama" song by Fantasia kinda irked me. EVERYTHING she was talking about was celebrating single mothers.....not a "baby momma".
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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

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Originally posted by Wildfire Wildfire wrote:

Originally posted by bindy bindy wrote:

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LMFAO.....@ this gifDead


in the J'can context, its babymother, and its not something thats looked down on. <font size="4" color="#0033ff">In fact, the babymother gets plenty of respect, or comes first. (where is Diane? I need one of her eloquent posts on the matterLOL<font size="4" color="#0033ff">babymother is even used to describe upper crust women, who have a child by a man who they are not married to. I cant recall any outrage over the term.

For some reason i feel likein the US context, babymama bares a different connotation, even though its the same thing, just worded differently?


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I prefer mother of my child. I don't take pride in baby momma, it's insulting as if that is all you will ever be.
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