Is it always the parents fault?

melikey wrote: ModelessDiva wrote: I always wonder about the kids that grow up and shoot up schools like that columbine school shooting i think those people were/are psychopaths and probably could have been helped if it was recognized by their families or community and proper treatment provided.

No, its' not always the parents fault. I seen good parents with evil ass kids...but then again I don't know what really goes on in their home.

Gkisses wrote: melikey wrote: ModelessDiva wrote: I always wonder about the kids that grow up and shoot up schools like that columbine school shooting i think those people were/are psychopaths and probably could have been helped if it was recognized by their families or community and proper treatment provided.  Agree.. causes a lot of the times there were signs that parents ignored. Like parents who have teens who are drug addicts or alcoholics. Sometimes parents see what they want to see because thats easier than having to deal with it.The parents say "they never seen it coming" but ask that neighbor or that classmate who saw shh that was off or heard the yelling that took place on and off.

I'M going thru with it right now with my daughter....thinking i have done right for her and well she just goes over the cliff

melikey wrote: afrokock wrote: ModelessDiva wrote: LovesHim wrote: I work with children..... people don't like to hear it but in my professional practice..... the apple doesnt fall far from the tree.....    this is exactly correct these are self serving comfort statements as an adult you just cant fathom that some kids are perfectly capable of being guided and raised right and still choose to go down the wrong path so you blame the parents sometimes kids are just kids no amount of hugs and kisses and sit down conversations can save some of them. lol you people act like kids are devoid of independent thought and immune to external suggestion even in the confines of a perfect home life hashtag: delusional lol i could have sworn you were one of the people who wouldn't date/marry someone from a "certain type" of family? contradictory much? or does this free will you speak of only work one way?

im not sure how and what and where i marry has a bearing on the fact that some kids will just turn out fucccked regardless of how solid and how involved their parents are

so before i turn into a c*nt, would you clarify how this lil tidbit for me please?

cheers