Is it always a parents fault??

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tatee

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Posted: Dec 26 2013 at 5:57am

it's probably the parents fault.

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Posted: Dec 26 2013 at 6:17am

nekamarie83 wrote:

carolina cutie wrote:

It can be the parent facilitating an environment that encourages bad behavior, the child may have a mental disorder causing him to act out and/or a combination of both. ODD is an example.

This, but (in my experience) it's SO rarely the latter.

More often than not, sh!tty parenting produces problem children.

This.

I don't have kids because I understood the responsibilies of parenthood ... at an early age (a big reader). So I knew it would be a big commitment but some folks just 'have kids' and let the chips fall where they may. So then you might have a monster on your hands.

But yes, the parents more than likely did not do somethng right for the child etc. For example - every child is unique so if you try to disipline them all the same .. problems.

If he is that bad now ... give him 10 more years. :(

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Posted: Dec 26 2013 at 8:05am

If this is your brothers child, does he live with him what does the mother say? Are they both lax in the discipline dept. Are they married, were they raised by lax or strict parents?

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Posted: Dec 26 2013 at 8:21am

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the parent was upset about his suspension and stated he shouldnt be punished because he was POOR....

What the entire fück?

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Posted: Dec 26 2013 at 8:37am

I don't know.

I have a longtime friend (friends since elementary school) that has 3 boys.

The oldest boy has always been a monster.

Her & her husband are confused about where they went wrong with him.

He's better when Dad is right there, but when my friend has him solo..spankings, time-outs, taking things away, talking.. nothing seems to correct his behavior. AND SHE IS A G.

He laughs at punishment.

He's 9 and I see juvenile detention in his near future.

She knows not to bring him to my house.

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Posted: Dec 26 2013 at 9:50am

In order to dicipline the child .. your friend needs to discover what the child REALLY likes - and then control his access to THAT thing.

That's why 'nothing' seems to work and he just laughs at spankings.

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Posted: Dec 26 2013 at 10:09am

Parents fault.....

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Posted: Dec 26 2013 at 10:50am

tatee wrote:

it's probably the parents fault.

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ITA... My son can be extra...

However, if I keep him busy in sports, books, extra, extra homework etc… he’s fine.
He loves to test the limits at 4 ½ --- this I can understand. I like to discipline with love and a little talk.
I truly believe that most children behaviors stems from a person/people in their environment (PIE---one of my old social work terms). Most good children outgrow “bad” behavior…
I'm a seasoned parent--- so I look at thinks a little different/ like see below:

Sometimes “bad behaviors can be teachable moments”
ANGELA BASSETT TALKS ABOUT SON’S ENCOUNTER WITH PRESIDENT OBAMA

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Posted: Dec 26 2013 at 10:51am

Printer_Ink wrote:

In order to dicipline the child .. your friend needs to discover what the child REALLY likes - and then control his access to THAT thing.

That's why 'nothing' seems to work and he just laughs at spankings.

... ITA with the above

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Posted: Dec 26 2013 at 1:23pm

parents' fault a lot of the time..

My little nephew bad too (he's 7).. He hit me yesterday and I almost literally threw him out my car..

Edited by EasterBell - Dec 26 2013 at 1:23pm