Geesh, snce no one has jumped in to reply to your ' I am
confused' pic .. I will state the obvious.
Men and women are not the same (and people have to stop pretending they are!)
Men are simply a heck of a lot stronger than women. How
can this be disputed? They have the bone density, weight, skin thickness, muscle
mass and testosterone that a woman can never have. In fact the concentration of testosterone is about
7 times more in a male than in female. Yes, there are some strong females out there but in
general … the average guy can deliver a punch with enough force to truly injure
the average woman – but the average woman cannot do this to the average man.
In fact he can beat the average female to a pulp .. if
he feels like it but the only way a woman can beat a man to a pulp … is if he decides to lay
there and just let her do it.
So it’s way TOO EASY for a man to overpower a woman – way too easy that’s why it gets to be a cheap shot for a man to hit a woman – makes
him look small and pitiful. That’s why Domestic Violence is against the law. The
law cannot be designed around WHICH female has the ability to REALLY hold her
own against a man … so in general IT IS ILLEGAL to hit a woman. DUH!
I don’t even understand why I
have to explain this common sense concept in this thread.
If the woman is hitting the man … he is supposed to leave. Yes, if she’s
crazy, she will follow him and keep hitting him until he’s gone .. but he’s gotta
take it like a man and walk away like a man . It’s on him to walk away because he
really is stronger and CAN hurt her if he wants to. Then he’s got to put some
plans in place to end the relationship. Period. He’s not supposed to haul off
and ‘defend himself’ and hit her back because once HE hits her .. she’s gonna
be hurt/flattened/whatever and then you start the fighting thing back and
forth. He just needs to get away from her. All cops know this … so that’s when
he shows the scratches etc she has done to him … compared to her bashed and blooded face (because he needed to DEFEND
HIMSELF) … they will still haul his a** away! Stupid.
But men do
stay with these women so it escalates into her grabbing a knife or gun or
whatever so that she can kill or injure the guy. But this wouldn’t happen if he
left early on when he recognized that she was prone to violence.
If the man is hitting the woman .. first off - it’s not gonna take
long for her to be flat out on the floor and if she just tries to ‘walk away’
he has the capacity to physically prevent that. So women can’t walk away at
that moment. That’s why you hear of all these women cowering in the corner
because ‘he wouldn’t let her go’. But afterwards,
she is supposed to have enough sense to start putting some plans into place to
end the relationship too .. otherwise she will get beaten again for sure. If she starts hitting him back again then
again you have that crazy back and forth fighting thing again.
for self-esteem etc reason the woman STAYS so it gets worse and worse and
escalates to whatever craziness you see on TV.
adults are not supposed to be beating up each other so they don’t have to ‘defend’
themselves because they are supposed to have enough sense to DISENGAGE. If not,
they are gonna have an F éd up life! The
kids see it and when they grow up they will end up in the same kind of relationships
.. only they thinks it’s normal to fight each other like that – so you have this
cycle of violent thing going on.
In all my 58 years I have never been hit or threatened
by a man or anyone for that matter or the other way around. All that s*** is
crazy. I like peace in the home.
When I grew up, none of the men hit the women (or
the other way around for that matter!) Nobody hit anybody or intimidated the
other, called each other these horrible names, or broke up things in the house or any of that
stuff. When my father and mother got mad – they would fight about it and he would
leave mad as heck. A couple of hours later he would come back go into the bedroom
and after a while they would be whispering and laughing and I think kissing in
there (which as kids we thought was nasty) but that was the end of it and
everyone was back in a good mood again. DUH! So to me this is how to resolve
Again, I am
sorry you had to be raised in a family of abuse … but you can stop the cycle
but not accepting and/or making excuses for bad behavior from men .. any men.