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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 18 2011 at 4:27pm
Originally posted by love1 love1 wrote:

I don't think it is submissive if done once in a while but these young men these days are quick to want a girl to act like their married... if your always cooking they will expect you to clean, do their laundry and all that and I think that's why men don't wanna get married they get in a relationship and get all the benefits of a partner
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lol

so simple ..
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 18 2011 at 4:31pm
naw, its not submissive, everyone has to eat lol. . . BUT you single chicks that do it for the Brotha (lol!!!! @ changing it to brotha) off the first date are just plan SIMPLE. thats not going to win him over. you cook and then he doesnt even wash the dishes or take out the trash. . . and then you fawk him. silly you. you look desperate. lol. he was eating BEFORE he met you, its not mandatory for someone you arent with. actually its NEVER mandatory but females are offering up benefits to people who havent even applied for the job. . .

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 18 2011 at 4:33pm
but how basic is it to think things need to be black and white?
 
do you like to cook? then cook. if not, don't. if he thinks it means you are submissive, that's on him, not you. if he treats you like you're submissive and you aren't, correct him and move on. if the guy you have sex with is so basic that he thinks your ability to fry a porkchop validates a long list of other sh*t that doesn't have anything to do with you frying to porkchop, stuff he learned from the ignorant people he was raised by, or his friends, perhaps you should stop sleeping with him until y'all straighten that out. it's not really your responsibility to train anybody, and constant correction gets so dull....
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 18 2011 at 5:35pm
too much 
I didn't read it but now bishes aren't going to cook for guys 

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 18 2011 at 5:47pm
My father does most of the cooking, always has.  I learned most of my skills from him.  My mother knows how, she just let him because he enjoys it so much.  I love to cook as well, but my SO didn't get home cooked from me until we had been dating for a month.  Why?  Because he didn't come to my house or before then.  I don't let just anyone into my life and my personal space.  I love to cook for him and he loves to eat...but he also loves to take me out for a wonderful meal and to cook for me too.  Everyone should be able to cook a few healthful dishes from scratch!
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 18 2011 at 9:40pm
I cook for my man...  I'm submissive. Nothing wrong with being submissive as long as you have a backbone and he or she respects you.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 18 2011 at 10:14pm
I don't feel as if I'm being submissive, I actually feel more womanly, more "wifey" when I do it lol
Like I'm takin care of my man, just as he takes care of me.
 
 
If you have the type of boyfriend who would say "So where's dinner?  How come you didn't cook?"  Of course you're gonna feel like you shouldn't cook.
 
But if you have the type of man who gives you a kiss on the neck and says "Honey that was really good.  I really liked the way you_____.  You should make this again sometime."
 
maybe your friend has just been running into the wrong men... Question
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 19 2011 at 9:12am
Originally posted by Lonisha87 Lonisha87 wrote:

Im not even going to read this. No!!!


yeah for real, what? how is it submissive? umm if i'm hungry i'm gonna cook and eat and if my man is there then i'm making enough for him. cooking is something you have to do to live. and if my man says he's hungry i'll make him something. it's how i take care of him and make sure he's good. there's submissiveness about it. women should cook for their men and men should cook for their women. but if my man is at work all day and i get home before him, yes i will have dinner ready for him by the time he gets home.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 19 2011 at 11:18am
idk.... but I suck at cooking anyway sooo.....
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Sep 19 2011 at 11:31am
If its someone you are with and you look to please them (and vice versa), why not be "submissive"-- if thats how you want to look at it.
 
He's damn near a chef, so naturally he cooks more than I do.
 
I cook when I feel like it. I will go out of my way to make something I know he really likes.

lol..LOL @ being submissive as a "bad" thing.

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