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Be careful about recording him though. Read up on that section of Calif Law. I know in some places it is illegal to do so without first informing the individual.

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Originally posted by Princess Grace Princess Grace wrote:

They all have too much time, I would ignore all of them Not speak, not hold the door or elevator, if I got the mail by accident in the trash it would be. 


UNLESS your landlord has said something to you directly , phuck him and his second hand information. 



There is no elevators because there is only 2 floors and 9 apartments, so I just see those people when one of them is coming out of their car and I am getting my mail or vice-versa.

I already reported the situation to the landlord and told them that most likely they will be contacted by him about his petty stories, plus I am not scared of the landlord anyways now that I know no one can evict me or fine me over silly stuff like that.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote sexyandfamous Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 29 2014 at 2:03am
Originally posted by Benni Benni wrote:

Be careful about recording him though. Read up on that section of Calif Law. I know in some places it is illegal to do so without first informing the individual.

Good Luck


but here in CA there are tons of celebrities that are recorded all the time even when they don't want to and tell the papparazzi to move away, so I don't think I need his consent. I am only recording him when he speaks to me.
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If you are going to record someone over the phone, legally you have to inform them that the call is being recorded.

In person, as long as they can see you, then it's ok even if they tell you stop recording (unless they're a police officer or you are otherwise harassing/assaulting them in another way).

Basically, you can't be covert about it.
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I would have laughed and kept walking. 

I then would have reported him to the landlord, the "be careful" comment can be perceived as a threat, and him calling you out of your name is definitely harassment. He certainly would have been warned moreso than you slamming the door. The latter is minor, him threatening you and calling you out of your name is an ENTIRELY different story and goes to your safety in the home you pay to live in every month. Get evil. Let the landlord know you were threatened. Please believe white people do their dirt in silence, so when he said he would "record you" and tell the landlord. What he really meant was that he and his Klan would be recording you and reporting you. Their goal is to get you out. 

I see no relevance in you slamming the door. Doors slam. So what. Part of living in an apartment complex is the possibility of noise. If he don't like it, either rent a mutherphuckin house or report it to the landlord... it's that simple. I've heard people arguing, having parties, and doors slam before. It's not a big deal because it's not retarded loud or anything and it's very rare. 

It disgusts me, how racists will approach you crazy and when you respond you are "confirming stereotypes". Phuck that. Who cares about stereotypes? He had preconceived notions from the jump. You being docile would not erase his negative perceptions of you. I'm sick of black people "caring" how white people perceive us. 


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Perfect plan, Sexy. Clap
-Get the pepper spray in hand. 
-Record him the next time he tries to talk to you, let it be heard in the video that you asked him not to speak to you and direct all comments to the landlord. That goes for any other neighbor who decides to pop up on the same tip. AND be sure that if they come near you/ follow you, you ask them to back up because you feel threatened, so that you will be well within your rights to mace.

I see it as a blessing you talked to him because now you know where his head is at. Stay in God and ask for guidance. Keep your head up and a smile on. They wont break you and when you move, it won't be at their hands. 

Ps 27:6 And now shall mine head be lifted up above mine enemies round about me: therefore will I offer in his tabernacle sacrifices of joy; I will sing, yea, I will sing praises unto the LORD. Smile


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I am not recording him over the phone. Only if he says something to me I will. I will not randomly record him.
I am taking my pepper spray with me when I walk my dog, just in case he tries something when I am walking in or out of the building.
I already let the landlord know about the issue and that the police told me to do so, plus the loser has no case, regardless of how many fake complaints he makes or for recording me. Even if he does record me, he would have to edit that sh*t so the landlord would know how many times whatever noise was heard, so he is going to spend way too much time on this bs, while I am going to do my thing.
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Originally posted by Blac1Chyna Blac1Chyna wrote:

Ignore these folks acting like you supposed to be some boot licking passive aunt jemima. sh*t Jim Crow days are over with, you dont have to be subservient to him
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (3) Thanks(3)   Quote indiecat Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 29 2014 at 2:34pm
I don't think your neighbors really think that of you, just that guy does. He was probably trying to upset you and he is a racist. you handled everything perfectly. those neighbors are not paying your rent or bills, so who cares what they think.
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I don't care what they think. But I am upset that I let him speak to me in that manner. I wish I had walked away like many people said they would.
Anyways, he spent the whole day yesterday out and today they disappeared. I think his wife heard me on the phone (when I was walking towards my apt) that I went to the police and they can't evict me over silly crap and I can file a restraining order.
The guy is either pissed that he didn't scare me with his threat or he is scared that I will file a restraining order.



eta: cross that., i just heard them inside. I think their recorder is on and they are trying to pick up any noise in my house. That is really creepy actually...


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