| dawills2002 wrote:|
My boyfriend and I planned a cruise that has to be paid by july 24th. Its suppose to be me and my boyfriend, his mom, sister, cousin and his cousins wife. My boyfriends mom and sister were suppose to have their own room. However, his sister canceled and that means his mom has to be in the room with me and my man. That also means we had to move to a bigger room that cost more. We still owe $304 but the balance is owed by his mom because my boyfriend and I paid our half. Now his mom is saying shes trying to get a car and wont have all the money. She said she may have about $125 of it. Now my boyfriend is paying the remaining balance just so the cruise line wont cancel our room. My thing is his mom can barely pay bills so how she go pay for a cruise? I even had to chip in extra money for her plane ticket because she didnt have all the money. She is damn near going on this trip for free and has only paid $200 total. She always trying to go places she cant afford and inconveniences everyone else. This is the last time I will plan a vacation with her.
I see your distress and I certainly understand it.
However, are you sure your anger is properly directed?
You have been subjected to a particular pattern of behavior that has left you feeling angry, neglected, used and abused. Not a pretty picture.
But look a little deeper and you'll find that the only person to blame is you.
Your would be mother-in-law is a user. Both you and your boyfriend are enablers.
He enables his mother's poor choices. And you enable his.
You sound like a responsible, level headed young lady.
Believe me there are mothers who would love to have such a one in their sons' lives.
The pair you currently have on your hands is not what you want in your future.
Believe in yourself and move on.
ETA: Good luck. Wish you well.
Edited by ragincajin - Jul 18 2014 at 12:31am