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see thats that bullsh*t

y'all wrong for that one
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Treating ur mom well and enabling her user habits, are two different things, but I know u know that.
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Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:



i remember when bhm once said that they would select a mate depending on how well he treats his momma



I wonder who said thatLOL


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Originally posted by ragincajin ragincajin wrote:

Originally posted by dawills2002 dawills2002 wrote:

My boyfriend and I planned a cruise that has to be paid by july 24th. Its suppose to be me and my boyfriend, his mom, sister, cousin and his cousins wife. My boyfriends mom and sister were suppose to have their own room. However, his sister canceled and that means his mom has to be in the room with me and my man. That also means we had to move to a bigger room that cost more. We still owe $304 but the balance is owed by his mom because my boyfriend and I paid our half. Now his mom is saying shes trying to get a car and wont have all the money. She said she may have about $125 of it. Now my boyfriend is paying the remaining balance just so the cruise line wont cancel our room. My thing is his mom can barely pay bills so how she go pay for a cruise? I even had to chip in extra money for her plane ticket because she didnt have all the money. She is damn near going on this trip for free and has only paid $200 total. She always trying to go places she cant afford and inconveniences everyone else. This is the last time I will plan a vacation with her.

I see your distress and I certainly understand it.
However, are you sure your anger is properly directed?
You have been subjected to a particular pattern of behavior that has left you feeling angry, neglected, used and abused. Not a pretty picture.
But look a little deeper and you'll find that the only person to blame is you.
Your would be mother-in-law is a user. Both you and your boyfriend are enablers. 
He enables his mother's poor choices. And you enable his.
You sound like a responsible, level headed young lady.
Believe me there are mothers who would love to have such a one in their sons' lives.
The pair you currently have on your hands is not what you want in your future.
Believe in yourself and move on.
ETA: Good luck. Wish you well.

 

This is on some Iyanla Fix My Life-ish that you probably overlooked Beloved. Do your work and you will learn why you accept such behavior.
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OP, that sounds like a mess. I would definitely fork over enough money to get Mom an inside room of her own, even if I had to pay for it myself!

And it would be the very last trip I took with the two of them together. Happy birfday, merry crimmas, and happy mothers day for the rest of your life momma. Give it in love and then be done with it.

http://www.carnival.com/BookingEngine/cruise-search/?rateCode=PUG&icid=CC_PUG0721_specialshero_2474

You have already paid for her, and I'm sure you can transfer her to another room and pay the difference.


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This would be a mother/son trip. Gimme my money back and I'll have a stay-cation at home.
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Tell the mama you will give her a ride to the airport and tell the boyfriend that mama said she will meet you on the plane.....

misunderstandings happen....
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Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

Read everything!Approve

This would be a mother/son trip. Gimme my money back and I'll have a stay-cation at home.



Yeah CC, I read all 17 pgs of this mess too, the shade and all, and I see the problem with money, but I would not let that stop me from going on my vacation, gurl, even if I had to get a cabin by myself, I would go and enjoy my time off.

I went on a cruise last year, and at the last minute, I mean 2 days before, a "crisis" came up with a family member, and for 80 dollars more, I added her to my cabin, we went, and had a good time anyway. I had booked the cabin by myself, so I had already paid for 2, and I just added the taxes. There were many tears and crap at night, but I was appropriately alchololized to where it didn't bother me. Lol. No ma'am, all I need is a good book, a beach/pool, and a frosty drink, good to go.

Her man won't get no lovin', but that's on him.
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Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

Read everything!Approve

This would be a mother/son trip. Gimme my money back and I'll have a stay-cation at home.


you plan on breaking up before he gets back? LOL

MIL's have long memories LOLLOL
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Originally posted by Limalady Limalady wrote:

Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

unpopular post but

The bf should get his money up to a point where he can take care of his family and his mama 

Mama is 56, she isn't going to do much more than she's doing and the bf can't say no (which is admirable)... he just needs to up his providing game 


 
Another unpopular post, but you could have paid too. I know that isn't a cool thing to say, but if it was that serious, just pay and be done with it. Based on that experience, don't invite her next time. It's a lesson learned, you know?

You know how many people and things my a$$ has to pay for?

I was thinking this as well.
I'd be a little salty leading up to the cruise… but once Im on the ship drinking and enjoying all those beautiful views , taking pics with the fam and creating magical moments.. All most will be forgotten.

And yes.. lesson learned… on how to proceed in the future.
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