Im in love with a sociopath

She rejected the offers??

Op , there are many people here wanting to help you... if it's mainly fear, that feeling will only be temporary until you're out of there and knowing that man is far away  from you (it'd be even better if his rump was locked up!) You'd be able to take any necessary legal action once you're free. You're young, you need to start living your life!

I hope you(op) get HELP soon .

OP you know your situation better than anyone. We can only offer you an olive branch. But you will leave when you're ready to do so. (Hopefully before you are seriously injured). My Mom once told me "when you're full, you'll get up from the table"...Meaning, when you've had enough of the bullsh*t...you will leave.

I truly believe you've already started the process because not only do you realize you are better and deserve more, you reached out and shared this very real (and embarrassing situation). There are many resources out there, and one will fit you. Like I said before, my pm is open if you need anything.

Hi FiveFeet3 my name is Chika, if you by chance happen to read this I want you know that you are a child of God and that God loves you.FF3 I came here to tell you the devil will try to isolate you from those who love and care about you.But keep your faith strong get back in touch w/ your family and back in touch w/ friends. Dont reveal to much becuse he could you those around to harm you which in most cases men that are over possieve most likely do. Please don't be discouraged but what im trying to tell you. But when you get in touch w/ them let them know your okay drop small hints and keep convos brief for the first few / weeks/months . E-mail me I will give you a full proof escape plan and keep me updated on your well-being I live in Texas Im sure it would be no problem for you to come stay w/ me I live in a house and I'm not far from Dallas they have alot of jobs here in Texas it one of the few states that havent been hit as badly by the ressession and for that I am thankful.If you need some extra cash I could give you some money and help you until your ready to get back on your feet if you don't feel comfortable staying in a shelter get in touch w/ me . My e-mail sugar_sweets1993@yahoo.com I am not in a realationship nor have I ever been married I don't have any young kids just me and my daughter even though I have never been a relationship like yours but I can still sympathize what your going through I dont know exactly what to say, I dont have all the right answers but what I do know is when God is laying something on my heart I do it. I say this to say to say When a women is feed up w/ a niqqa when you reach that point where you can't take it anymore when everyone has tired to warn you to leave his bitch ass and you dont one day you have to get to that point by yourself and say you know what enough is enough i got to leave this man!!! some people come to that conclusion others never have the chance sadly. But I applaud you for taking the first step that just shows you love yourself enough to get away from this trainwreck. I know you may feel guilty about leaving him because you don't want to negelect this man because you care about him you know his painful past his all his emotional stuggles and becuase you love him. Yes he's been through alot judging from your side of thhe story but that not an excuse to beat you and take away two innocent young lives YOU GOTTA LEAVE. Often times love is blind and we can't see that the person who we love most is hurting us the most and is causing us servere pain. But you must recognize this man is toxic and dangerous and you need to get away forget about the house, credit etc. GIRL you got to get up and run for your life lol. If you afraid and don't want you to do this by yourself I want you to know you don't have to do this by yourself call up a DV center and ask them to assit you w/ leaving Again I want you to know that I salute you and say that I am proud of you so many never develop the courage to leave and they just keep on contining the cycle of abuse which not only affects them but there children and those around them. I know your scared I know your worried but trust in God he will never steer you wrong and he will never forsake you it is at your most lowest when he is holding you at the most highest and also when you are when you are closest to him. REMEMBER THAT .Again I encourage you to get away from this man and drop everything and run.I mean that literally when you battling evil forces turn to the bible and read psalms 27,59,91,&23. My mother taught me those scriptures read these whenever you feel up against evil. Those are very powerful verses trust me that stuff works these verses are for spirtual warfare and serious protection. Right now your battling evil forces because you are up under evil .I'm a person whose close to God and I knew your telling the truth because God speaks to me. Immediately right of the back I knew you were a sista in trouble. Sweetheart it so important to know your worth and know that you are special and important and beautiful regardless of how society views the black woman and how we should be treated and precieved . That's why you when you marry somebody its so important to love yourself and chose your mate wisely and let God lead them to you I mean your 23 you got your whole life ahead of you to find someone who loves accepts and makes you so happy. Think of Helen and Orlando in Tyler Perry's Diary of Mad Black Woman. Remember everyone thought she had the perfect life the perfect man he was rich and sucessful but behind close doors he didn't give a damn about her. But after she got away from Charles crazy destuctive ass no soon after that she met the man God entitled her to be with. That's the way I feel its going to be w/ you I believe when you finally free yourself and get into some conseling you'll begin to know your worth your finances will turn your health will turn around you will wake up w/ so much joy in your heart tears will stream down your face because you will be walking w/ God and you will be at peace all of this is possible but you but right now you gotta take that first step. You are not alone there are so many women that have been in this situation who act impulsevely about having a realtionship because they to want so badly for someone to love them and their afraid of standing on their own to feet and THERE IS nothing wrong w/ that nobody wants to live a long life and grow old all by yourself never to have a husband never to have no kids to see grow up and change and admire nobody wants to die alone truthfully thats one of my biggest fears nobody will be there to stand by my bedside   take my last breathe and meetmy maker no one to laugh and admire our kids w/ its just you,yourself and you always in the background watching life past you by seeing all your friends getting married living their lives having children and you just the "bridemate" never the bride always accepting leftovers, never accepting the best, always second guessing yourself trying your very haredest to pretend like everything is okay when truly you are so unhappy w/ your life.That used to be me . We as people aren't meant to be alone your suppose to have a interaction with other people w/o it you would and will go crazy and you'll begin to feel suffocated and detached from life and will grow tired from being alone. But that in no way should subsitite or justify for the way this man treats you any man for that matter. Countless times i've seen so many women stay w/ a man and they are secretly unhappy on the surface they act like everything is okay when really their life is in shambles and disarry. it happens to so many young black woman around our age and older and its so sad. Again I just want to say that I so proud of you for getting the courage to leave.You are a strong young woman who has endured so much. But always remember you are not alone in this so many womwn have been through your stuggle they know your pain. Reach out and talk to them by finding a support group. It's like my grandma use to say what don't kill you can only make you stonger. You will get this through this and I believe years from now when your ready you'll be able to open up w/ other vitims and tell them your story just like you've told us and people will be able to confide in you and relate and trust in you and think "you know what I am not alone cuz this sista right here went through exactly waht im going through and if she can get through and survive maybe I can too".God Bless you sweetheart I wish you a long sucessful journey to recovery.Please e-mail me if you get the chance

Edited by TeamUSAF - Sep 24 2012 at 9:54am

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