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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

maybe i'm thinking about worse case scenarios. 

do yall think a married couple for example, living in a one bedroom apt with student loans out the ying yang, barely making enough to pay their cell phone bills should PLAN to have a child under those circumstances?




Under these circumstances it makes sense to wait.

The stress will put a big strain on the marriage.



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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


once again only the wealthy and those that choose to live in poverty and make it without govt assistance should have kids

the rest......tough sh*t


I never said any of those things.

I said wait until you can afford to be a good parent. Which includes not having a daycare worker rear your child. And that can be done at any income level, it's all about priorities.


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I'll wait to afford to be a good parent...and send them to daycare. 
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i dunno. 

i guess like if i wanted to get a puppy which i do so badlyCry (not equating puppys with children though) i know it would be wise to wait until i at least have one foot outside the door at my job cause i'm not around enough to care for it. 

i keep trying to convince my ma to keep a puppy for me when i'm away and she's like hell naw. mama mean. i want a puppy now LOL

i'm rambling
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I'll send my dog to doggy daycare too. 
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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

you think procreation is necessary, benni? 


In the sense that we will carry on in genealogy or continuing life on earth.... Yes.   

I adopted a child because I was told I was unable to bear a child.

I only did it after I was married, earning an income that was conducive to adding to my household with ease.

Not only being able to financially support the child, but spending quality time with him, and nurturing him to become the best person he can be.   In this case someone else did the procreating.

Some men just want 'extension' of themselves .

HTH




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awww, benni. you adopted! that's freaking awesome!

i guess that's my thing too though. i feel like there are so many kids in the world already who need love and care that its not necessary for me to have children of my own. 

this is where my bias comes from. i admit that it is a bias. i don't judge others but this is a good discussion nonetheless. 
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good point, samone. 

i'm listening and trying to understand everyone's pov. i won't allow myself to be a hard headLOL
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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

awww, benni. you adopted! that's freaking awesome!

i guess that's my thing too though. i feel like there are so many kids in the world already who need love and care that its not necessary for me to have children of my own. 

this is where my bias comes from. i admit that it is a bias. i don't judge others but this is a good discussion nonetheless. 






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Originally posted by JasmineE02 JasmineE02 wrote:

I'll send my dog to doggy daycare too. 
*Calls ASPCA*
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