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I want kids in about 7 years for lots of reasons..
I don't think you have to have a specific reason.

Love them and care for them and teach them.

I think I'd bear good fruit and I love kids but I'd only have kids with my SO.
Wouldn't be the same if they weren't with him
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Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

i can rationalize why someone might feel disgust for some of these but what's disgusting about number 2 or 6...2 can happen with adoption as well.


To have a child just so they can have your name is so dumb it disgusts me.

And 6, 6 is just a lie. Most of existence today is not a joy. And people are deliberately bringing children into situations that are not only less than joyful but are HORRIBLE.
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Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

I wish more jobs had on site daycare to support parents (single or married) who continue working during the child rearing years.

 
That would have been wonderful when our children were small.
Only time we ever considered actually living in the city.
Would have been great to jump a cab and steal a few minutes.
We always had help. No choice. But ahh...back then we were in our own little world with the kids. 
Every single second was golden. We loved that none slept through the night. 
All hours we'd be able to see them. Worked great until they were four or five. Then you couldn't wake 'em with a sledge hammer. LOLLOL
I still think that they're the most amazing people I know. So glad God gave them to us.
Matter of fact, let me call my son. Last I spoke to him some white English woman was buzzing around him across the pond. I want to make sure he swats that fly.LOLLOL
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Originally posted by AshBash89 AshBash89 wrote:

It's the middle class that suffers. Lower class qualifies for caps and upper class can afford it.


Suffer?
Birth control is cheaper than daycare.

Yeah I'm not feeling bad for anyone (obvious caveats apply...anyone in developed countries with reasonable access to birth control or abstinence), having a baby is a choice, an expensive choice.
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Originally posted by ThatGurlD ThatGurlD wrote:

Just throwing this out there if anyone is curious.  In 2011 while I was in school, my daycare bill was $1,100/mo for one full-time and one before school.  Yes, I could have found some child herding center for cheaper, but this place was fabulous, loved my children and my youngest had preschool built into his day.  

Most people I know don't even look for a daycare until they're pregnant.

and this is why every time my SO talks wanted more than 1 kid I laugh in his face. 
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

i can rationalize why someone might feel disgust for some of these but what's disgusting about number 2 or 6...2 can happen with adoption as well.


To have a child just so they can have your name is so dumb it disgusts me.

And 6, 6 is just a lie. Most of existence today is not a joy. And people are deliberately bringing children into situations that are not only less than joyful but are HORRIBLE.

if your family sucks and offers nothing to society in general then i can see why number 2 is useless, but i think this is more so people who are proud of their family, values, and accomplishments and want to bring more good into the world.

as far as 6, life is more good than bad.  people who have that philosophy will probably produce well adjusted kids.  i'm pretty cynical, but i want to give kids the best experiences life has to offer.

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My daughter is the best thing that ever happen in my life . I am going get things taken care of for health reasons , unless God gives me another without trying . Children born at 50+ run high in my family . I am going to adopt next year . I can't speak on the lady until next week . Daycare is a small fortune .

 My daughter school tuition for toddlers start at 1,200 a month for toddlers to attend for 4 hours  , but many are advance by the time they reach kindergarten . My cousin wife quit her job and open a daycare with the vacant house next to her . I can't believe how my cousin attach the 2 homes together .
 
 Bonnie can walk from the main house to the daycare . The woman made a fortune from nothing , but she will only take welfare or state funding to avoid not gettting paid . I would love to open a center for seniors .
  
PS .. Bonnie hires people that must do community service to take of the basics like meals . The daughter quit her job to work with mom . The woman is making a fortune . Illnois law requires all welfare folk to attend school or work after 3 months .


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Life is waaaaayyy more good than bad.
Not even close
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Maysay I'm not going to go back and forth with you. I wholeheartedly disagree with most of your views on parenting. My views on the middle class aren't limited to day care expenses.
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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

Life is waaaaayyy more good than bad.
Not even close


Not to everybody.
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