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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (5) Thanks(5)   Quote melikey Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 04 2014 at 9:02pm
I always wanted to be a parent, cause I'm awesome and think the world needs more like me. .lol
Having biological children was never a must have for me. I'd still like to adopt one day.
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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


daycare is expensive anyway

well good ones........

many stay home because they cannot afford to send their kids to one

girl I know had twins and daycare would have been $3500 each month for them, a family member watches her kids


This is actually what I see most, women who stay home because almost their entire paycheck would go to daycare anyway so there's no point.
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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

think i'ma shake things up a bit and place myself in the hot seat. 
*dodges tomatoes*

do yall agree with this?

top 10 reasons why people have children.

1. To have someone who would take care of them when they get old. 

2. To carry on family name. 

3. Because they love babies. 

4. It's human nature. 

5. Pregnancy and childbirth are life experiences. 

6. To let their children (who don't exist yet) experience the joy of existence.

7. To give parents grandchildren.

8. To embody love for each other. 

9. They want children of their own, with their own bloodline. 

10. They don't know.






Most of these reasons are just dumb. But 1, 2, 6, 7, and 9 just disgust me.
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i can rationalize why someone might feel disgust for some of these but what's disgusting about number 2 or 6...2 can happen with adoption as well.
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thanks for your responses  and honesty rt and melikey. 

i've spent quite a bit of time analyzing the pros and cons of MY having children but i can't think of one good reason that doesn't feel like some kind of search for existential fulfillment which to ME seems to be in vain so why bother.


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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote carolina cutie Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 04 2014 at 9:11pm
I remember driving past a mediocre day care center in town. The sign boasted a special: $350 a week for daycare.

$350 week
4 weeks in a month
$1,400 month
$16,800 year

My face after I did the mental math: jawdrop
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote ThatGurlD Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 04 2014 at 9:12pm
Just throwing this out there if anyone is curious.  In 2011 while I was in school, my daycare bill was $1,100/mo for one full-time and one before school.  Yes, I could have found some child herding center for cheaper, but this place was fabulous, loved my children and my youngest had preschool built into his day.  

Most people I know don't even look for a daycare until they're pregnant.
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It's the middle class that suffers. Lower class qualifies for caps and upper class can afford it.
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i don't know how moms do it, seriously.  that's a 2nd mortgage.
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I want kids in about 7 years for lots of reasons..
I don't think you have to have a specific reason.

Love them and care for them and teach them.

I think I'd bear good fruit and I love kids but I'd only have kids with my SO.
Wouldn't be the same if they weren't with him
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