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If all children were planned, I'd agree but that's not realistic.
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Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

I wish more jobs had on site daycare to support parents (single or married) who continue working during the child rearing years.


I wouldn't get any work done....I'd be there stalking my baby.....making her do silly stuff like make animal noises and kissy facesEmbarrassedLOL.....and telling every one she's a genius cause she did some trivial shytLOL
"Look Look! She picked up the block and dropped it. Mah baby is a genius!"LOL




the hospital i work at has a daycare facility....i was so engrossed in my work i had actually forgot to pick her up...lawd  my mom had to come to the hospital and pick up my daughter while a volunteer entertained her by reading to her out in the lobby...but those onsite daycares are fantastic...also cause it was coming straight out of my paycheck which was great also...so it is already being taxed
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daycare is expensive anyway

well good ones........

many stay home because they cannot afford to send their kids to one

girl I know had twins and daycare would have been $3500 each month for them, a family member watches her kids
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Hmm. As a male, i think these 4 are closest reasons for me. Sort of a mixture I suppose.

Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:


2. To carry on family name.

I don't really care about my family name but I do want a child to carry on my legacy, even more now that I don't believe in an after life.

4. It's human nature.

I've imagined being a father since I was a kid myself, often contrasting what my father did with what I planned to do when I became a father. I'm not sure if that's exactly human nature but the instinctive feeling of wanting to be a father has been around since I can remember.

6. To let their children (who don't exist yet) experience the joy of existence.


I do think about all of the things I want to share with my kids, the fun of the hobbies I enjoy, the beauty of the places I like to visit, the taste of the foods I like to cook. It's def a romanticized view of life but I admit it is a driving force.

9. They want children of their own, with their own bloodline. 

I've thought about adopting (mostly because the two women I've seriously dated have had fertility issues) but I admit that it would be somewhat disappointing since I really want children with my blood, my genes, my features. 




I'm not sure if any of these are particularly good reasons. And reading them on paper, maybe some of it is shallow, but that's how I feel I guess. The driving force to be a better parent than my father was is especially strong, and I'm not sure why. I also want to learn from my kids, which may be weird too.









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I always wanted to be a parent, cause I'm awesome and think the world needs more like me. .lol
Having biological children was never a must have for me. I'd still like to adopt one day.
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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


daycare is expensive anyway

well good ones........

many stay home because they cannot afford to send their kids to one

girl I know had twins and daycare would have been $3500 each month for them, a family member watches her kids


This is actually what I see most, women who stay home because almost their entire paycheck would go to daycare anyway so there's no point.
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Originally posted by noneyons noneyons wrote:

think i'ma shake things up a bit and place myself in the hot seat. 
*dodges tomatoes*

do yall agree with this?

top 10 reasons why people have children.

1. To have someone who would take care of them when they get old. 

2. To carry on family name. 

3. Because they love babies. 

4. It's human nature. 

5. Pregnancy and childbirth are life experiences. 

6. To let their children (who don't exist yet) experience the joy of existence.

7. To give parents grandchildren.

8. To embody love for each other. 

9. They want children of their own, with their own bloodline. 

10. They don't know.






Most of these reasons are just dumb. But 1, 2, 6, 7, and 9 just disgust me.
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i can rationalize why someone might feel disgust for some of these but what's disgusting about number 2 or 6...2 can happen with adoption as well.
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thanks for your responses  and honesty rt and melikey. 

i've spent quite a bit of time analyzing the pros and cons of MY having children but i can't think of one good reason that doesn't feel like some kind of search for existential fulfillment which to ME seems to be in vain so why bother.


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