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Originally posted by reesegurl11 reesegurl11 wrote:

You ever watch the gypsy wedding show? They marry cousins to keep there family line more pure.
Ugh yes!Dead

They marry super young and some marry their 1st cousins. They have a look about them...
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This topic actually reminds me of when I first moved out east after college.

I moved to Jersey where my mom and a LOT of my family is from - literally all over the state in HUGE numbers. I randomly met this guy when I was out one day and we clicked. Then one day my aunt met him, and somehow we got on the topic of family and she started asking questions. Turns out he was related. Dead

His mother was the daughter of my grandmother's cousin. I was so skeeved lol. Totally put the brakes on whatever spark we had. And he had the nerve to be like "but that's so distant". NOT DISTANT ENOUGH.

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Nope. If you had family that stayed in one place for a number of years and the same with your partner then the chance is high that you are related. Many people have that and they are all normal.

If you have had one of those DNA test you can enter your extended raw data into a university website and see how many of your relatives were related to each other. I did it and it conformed what I already knew from research, I had on my mothers side family that married back and forth a couple of times.


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I'm glad this probably will NOT happen to me. We DIG into family to prevent this. It's cultural anyway.
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First cousins

But never siblings

I don't get why religious people would be upset at the idea of marrying relatives

Aren't we all from Adam and Eve?
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My mom comes from a small city and it is a rule that you ask for their last name and then go back and run it pass the elders to get the green light. I couldn't do it..I always ask a lot of questions..find out where people are from, their family's family is from and surnames all of that. I wouldn't go to the altar without getting clearance...and usually that means they've met the family and I've met his. It would be disturbing to know after the fact...I'm like..just don't tell us
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1st cousins- oh hell naw

2nd cousins - Kinda of removed but very iffy
 
3rd cousins - we are removed and genetically different.
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I know wayyyyyyy to many family members (mostly cousins) for that ish. 

I remember my first corporate job and 8 months or so into it finding out my Manager was my cousin. I knew we came from the same island but we never went into detail about our family members until she mentioned a cousin of mine name. What if she was a man and I happen to have a crush on him or something. I couldn't imagine. Id be mortified.
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i have a family member that did bc they were adopted.  they married and had all boys, one son was almost albino and all of them are mentally unstable
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Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

First cousins

But never siblings

I don't get why religious people would be upset at the idea of marrying relatives

Aren't we all from Adam and Eve?


I think it depends on the religion. This topic made me curious so I wiki'd yesterday and a lot of religions (Christianity & Islam not included) strictly forbid intermarrying within your own blood line - no matter how removed.

But IMO, more than the "ick" factor is the fact that the closer your relations, the higher the chance for developmental or health issues. I think the wiki page I read said basically intermarrying too closely with your own relations (first & second cousins specifically) gave you higher birth risks & infant mortality rates as if a woman waited to have children past the age of either 40 or 45.
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