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Originally posted by Malexandre Malexandre wrote:

well i think too many  women like to describe themselves as independent strong women while they have somebody els paying for their bills and an ex paying child support. I think its really hypocritical. There is nothing wrong with being with somebody and helping each other out no need to act like you are independent when you are not.

Now based on the quote, I think its ridiculous cause no men should have to pay your bills to be considered as you boyfriend, husband, ect..If you are struggling it is on you, if he wants to help you that s great but he s not entitle to .  


a man is supose to PROVIDE for you, PROTECT you and PROFESS his love for you.
the three p's in order to claim coochie
im not saying to suck him dry of all his money but like drake said.
"coochie run everything, tha tnoise"
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This is a really good topic, I wish there would have been more feedback

My question would be what if your dude try his best to provide for you and your family... but you feel as if it's just not enough because you have alot on your plate....what if he was at a time in his life when he's going thru a rough time and keeps hitn hard bottom...but the flip side to it is, he's been trying to get his life in order for 1 year already. Should you just continue holding everything down and take what little help you can and keep faith that everything will soon get better, or be done with the whole relationship and just move on?
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Originally posted by BeanieBabiesMommy BeanieBabiesMommy wrote:

 


a man is supose to PROVIDE for you, PROTECT you and PROFESS his love for you.
the three p's in order to claim coochie
im not saying to suck him dry of all his money but like drake said.
"coochie run everything, tha tnoise"

I like that....I was always told the 3 F rules, and that is if he isn't F'n you, Feeding you or Financing you then a chic should re-consider. Smile
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Originally posted by Beauty620 Beauty620 wrote:

This is a really good topic, I wish there would have been more feedback

My question would be what if your dude try his best to provide for you and your family... but you feel as if it's just not enough because you have alot on your plate....what if he was at a time in his life when he's going thru a rough time and keeps hitn hard bottom...but the flip side to it is, he's been trying to get his life in order for 1 year already. Should you just continue holding everything down and take what little help you can and keep faith that everything will soon get better, or be done with the whole relationship and just move on?


It is important to be understanding: if the guy truly is trying but you feel that it is not enough... maybe the problem is you. One thing is a guy who hears you talk about your problems and says "everything will be fine" and then goes on to tell you of his newest and pricey purchase, another is when you tell the guy your problems and he is like "let me help you".

If the guy is providing for you, regardless of you being married or not and you still think it is not enough, b!tch you are selfish.

Now if the guy is having financial problems for a while and has been having a hard time getting out of that and he is really trying by applying to jobs, doing his best to succeed in his interview, etc, one should not say "f*ck him" just because he cannot provide.

But the materialistic, selfish girls will disagree.
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Originally posted by Beauty620 Beauty620 wrote:

Originally posted by BeanieBabiesMommy BeanieBabiesMommy wrote:

 


a man is supose to PROVIDE for you, PROTECT you and PROFESS his love for you.
the three p's in order to claim coochie
im not saying to suck him dry of all his money but like drake said.
"coochie run everything, tha tnoise"

I like that....I was always told the 3 F rules, and that is if he isn't F'n you, Feeding you or Financing you then a chic should re-consider. Smile


I always thought of the last two, never the first one... I'd rather support myself then have a man paying for my sh*t.
As a kid, I would hear my dad, who was the main provider (my mom made much less money) say to my mom "It is MY money and I do whatever I want". I never wanted to be in this kind of situation, but I wanted a man to protect me and  profess his love for me constantlyHeart
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Ohh I just noticed the pic I posted it's gone.

It was something like "If you got a man and you are broke, b!tch you single"


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He need to share in the bills when were married.
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this fits the former image on the first page of this thread perfectlyLOL

https://31.media.tumblr.com/38da21299469e36e26b975406574ae1d/tumblr_mffx9bMMvC1qbbb7uo3_250.gif
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