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    Posted: Feb 08 2013 at 7:05pm

who is to blame?
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The parents.
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Originally posted by AshBash89 AshBash89 wrote:

The parents.


This and their siblings and society and the child .


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Other black people.
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i cant blame parents. i know kids lookin at white princesses all the time think thats the way its suppose to be. this is before tiana. (im speaking of young kids though. teens form their own ideas)



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I'd also say the parents have a lot to do with it but things can get problematic when a black child is raised in an all white environment. No matter how much praise and security they might get from the parents, they may have a difficult time adjusting until they at least reach adulthood.
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My children at ages 2 and 4 are reciting poems by Langston Hughes. I always reflect on my childhood and how my family frowned upon nappy/kinky hair and so seeing someone with nappy/kinky hair looked so ugly to me. It took me up until I was 18 and watching my sisters go natural, to realize how beautiful our hair is. I never want my children to feel ashamed of any of their blackness and so I embed in their minds how beautiful they are and how beautiful we as a people are. 
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its no one answer. i don't think it solely rests on the parents, but something that, ideally, should be supported in all facets of that child's life, from the school to the home to the community at large.

your parents can foster pride in you for being black, but if that isn't supported outside of the home as well, then it becomes even harder. the same child that has encouraging parents may have black friends/classmates that deem them "not black" for a variety of reasons. and while it is easier for an adult to ignore that, for a child (and teen), those things are going to stick w/ them for years.

similarly, if they go to a predominantly white school system and are one of the few black students (or minorities), and endure micro/macrotransgressions constantly can start to be ashamed of their culture. and a young child or teen may not have the tools to deal with all that...hell, some adults don't have the tools to deal with it.

just my opinion.
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the parents, family and community. we gotta stop blaming these CACs (eem tho they started this mess) and take some responsibility

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I think everyone is right here. But the issue isn't blame because its a larger picture. The issue is how do you fight it?
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