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khivey 
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 Posted: Feb 18 2014 at 6:41pm |
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I remember I asked my boyfriend after two years if he loved me and he said "Yes" like "duh!" lol. Then I said I loved him too. The thing is..I don't know if he would have came out and said it if I hadn't asked. His actions showed, but I wanted to hear it. I just came out and asked and he didn't hesitate. So ask him:)
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Cynthia94
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Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 1:27pm |
Than you, i really appreciate your advice towards a situation like this.. I may be much of help.. Honesty is what I want everything to fall under, relationship wise 
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Cynthia94
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Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 1:30pm |
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I wished mine would do the same, instead of holding onto his feelings.. the route is open, and he doesn't need to be afraid of it..I'm allowing him to step in..
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AriesBabe09
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Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 1:46pm |
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How old are you guys? Just wondering. I'm also wondering if maybe he was hurt in the past.
Edited by AriesBabe09 - Feb 19 2014 at 1:47pm
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Cynthia94
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Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 2:00pm |
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I'm 20 and he's 24... and yes I never asked him about his past with his ex's because it's like he despise them and don't want anything to do with them. When we first met he was just a loner, keeping to himself.
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khivey
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Posted: Feb 19 2014 at 8:20pm |
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He has issues if he despises his exes. That alone shows he doesn't know how to forgive and he is holding onto past hurt. It is not your job to fix him either. However, it will take some time for him to fully give in to you and let you really know how he feels. It's up to you if you wait around or not.
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AriesBabe09
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Posted: Feb 20 2014 at 4:04pm |
 khivey wrote:
I remember I asked my boyfriend after two years if he loved me and he said "Yes" like "duh!" lol. Then I said I loved him too. The thing is..I don't know if he would have came out and said it if I hadn't asked. His actions showed, but I wanted to hear it. I just came out and asked and he didn't hesitate. So ask him:) |
I agree with this....I like to hear it as well, I don't want it to be implied or wouldn't want to assume someone loves me, so maybe you should just ask.
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Twisted_Angel
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Posted: Mar 12 2014 at 9:22pm |
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Bump
Did you talk to him about it yet?
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Printer_Ink
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Posted: Mar 13 2014 at 7:53am |
khivey wrote:
He has issues if he despises his exes. That alone shows he doesn't know how to forgive and he is holding onto past hurt. It is not your job to fix him either. However, it will take some time for him to fully give in to you and let you really know how he feels. It's up to you if you wait around or not. |
Yep! If he still hates his exes ... he's carrying bagage into THIS relationship. (I don't hold illwill against any of my exesnor do I talk about them. If I run into them I would speak and be polite and then be on my way.) Again though for the OP ... don't ask that man if he loves you. This is bad advice IMO. I think asking CAN work when you are 99% sure everything is already great in the relationship .. but when you know things are screwy .. why add fuel to the fire? Let him figure it out by himself.
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Wildfire
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Posted: Mar 13 2014 at 1:56pm |
Cynthia94 wrote:
Hello Everyone, So me and this guy has been together for approximately 1 year and 8 months (Almost 2 years), and I just can't seem to get through him. After 5 months of dating, I Accidentally came out and Told him that I Loved Him.. He responded with a Question that I sorta caught me off guard. But months went by and it's like he's seriously struggling to tell me that he feels the same way for me. What do you guys think this means?
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Youve assumed he loves you. Probably hasnt told you, because he doesnt? Or maybe he does but just isnt the type to voice it. That's always difficult for a woman. Its hard to settle for not hearing it and knowing it. Personally, I couldn't do it...
IMHO...never tell a man you love him first.
And what question did he ask when you told him you loved him?
Edited by Wildfire - Mar 13 2014 at 1:58pm
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