I shaved off all of my hair when I was 15 and wore a wig for four months until it was long enough for kinky braids.
I am 19 now and my hair is just so damaged. I am currently wearing clip-ins but the front is so short and uneven...it's always breaking off and I don't know why because I moisturize it every night. Perhaps it is from the frequent flat ironing I started in May. My hair was very nice and natural but I made clip in extensions out of bohyme in April. The bohyme was so just..wild that I threw it out and decided to do straight clip ins and had to flat iron my hair which quickly lead to heat damage on my curls. Then in August and again in September I relaxed the edges, a little bit of the front, and a little bit of the back to blend in with my tree braid style I got with hair that was silky straight (I did not know, ordered from internet...the style was to have a little bit of hair out to cover the braids so it looks natural. it looked great)
But now, I am noticing my hair is breaking off. Maybe it is because I am in a new location or extremely stressed with college...I don't know. But my hairline is starting to hurt when I touch it and I don't know why because I don't even relax it anymore.
That being said, I'm just getting frustrated with this. I cut it off 4 years ago and had to deal with a lot of insecurity and feeling ugly ... for nothing because I damaged it again. So I"m thinking of getting it cut VERY short (except for the front which will be trimmed) and do the same invisible braid style I had before BUT with good kinky straight braiding hair and/or wet & wavy that will blend with my texture and can be reused. Since I'm a first year in college my goal is to keep it braided until at least my senior year of college. With the hair being short, I will not be tempted to use clip in extensions and I will be tempted to get it braided (I think short hair looks so ugly on me), thus leaving my hair alone to grow.
That was my goal the first time I transitioned. Keep it braided from freshmen year to senior year of high school. But I was wearing kinky twists and sometimes the braids would get so nappy and unruly, i felt ugly. So a year and four months later, my hair reached shoulder length (when flat ironed) and I got so excited and started putting clip in extensions in...ugh I ruined it. But I learned my lesson. I hate using fake hair. I would love to have my own natural 3C/4A hair past my shoulders and so thick. But tree braids give a bit of a more natural look, especially by leaving some of my own hair out in the front and using human hair so maybe this time I will stick to my goals.
Any suggestions? Anything you think I should change to my plan or add to my plan? Any products I should try? Should I get a fotki and start participating more on here? I don't have any black females around me who are natural. Any advice for when I get frustrated with my hair?
Thanks for reading ladies. I feel this place is the only support I will get as a black women trying to grow her natural hair long in a world where black women around me relax or get fake hair. I never want to have to use fake hair again OR use a relaxer to straighten my hair once I get to my goal.
Edited by peaceloveandcurls - Oct 28 2012 at 3:55pm