I Hate My Boyfriend's Family, With A Passion.....

 

ScorpioLuv wrote: For what? He's laughing at this now. I've helped him be healthy and start to get his life together, something his mom failed at. So huh?

honestly, if a friend saw helping me out as "upgrading" me. i'd be mega bothered. 

jonesable wrote: modelbusiness82 wrote: IMO an investment is an investment, whether it's a friend, relative, business contact or SO. I can make more money, I can make more contacts. But my time is the most valuable thing I have. So if I take time from my life to help you out/point you in the right direction/etc, you need to know that the favor should be returned if and when the opportunity presents itself. Because if I come to you in my time of need and you act salty...we're done. Damn. See yeah I don't do favors with eye on getting a return on my investment . I do it bc the person is my friend and I love then. And ibc they love me I'm sure if I ever needed help they would help me without question. But I don't look at it as a return . Eww The way your phrased that seems so cold and calculating. I don't like friendships like that

Don't take this as shade when I say it but:

I run in circles of upwardly mobile ppl. To take take take and never give back is highly frowned upon in my circle, as you should never want to do well and see your crew struggling. This industry I'm in (entertainment) is hard. Almost all my friends work in entertainment or social media, etc. If you don't have people watching your back or looking out for you, you won't succeed.

IMO, you should never ask for help with the intent to never want to give back in return. So, for someone to get mad because the unspoken understanding of my help is that "when I need you I will call" is a sign that they're not mature enough to understand how life really works (people helping people) and it is them in fact who are the selfish ones.

BeatriceBean wrote: modelbusiness82 wrote: BeatriceBean wrote: Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand she a Scorpio... GIRLUH! I'm a scorpio...don't put that on me lol.   Didn't you just say that you're not nice when crossed? LOL I think it applies to you too!

Haha...yes but I don't pop off at my SO's fam. Nor do I get involved in his sometimes messy situations.

Honestly I've learned to control my temper over the years. Not everything deserves a 0 - 100 sec response. I've become the type that if I don't care for someone, I usually just leave them alone. They're not worth my time to go back and forth with them, etc. The time I waste beefing with someone I can't stand is time I'm taking away from me.

It's great to be emotional, but you have to know when to get involved and when to save your energy.

I think you should surround yourself with people that are going somewhere tbh