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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:24pm
Dang, I wrote something good but of course BHM couldn't act right.

My point is basically, I have no problem investing in ppl, when they've proven they're a good investment. It's just good business. You wouldn't go to a job interview for Enron on the day they got indicted. So, why would you just blindly help ppl who throw up a lot of red flags.

I cant speak on how other ppl are approached for help, but for me it's always someone asking me to put them in contact with someone in my network who can take them to the next level. So, I'm not offering those contacts to someone I met a few weeks ago. How my friends interact with my contact is a direct reflection on myself, so I have to be careful.

In terms of my SO, yes I did motivational as well as basically being his marketing & PR rep and totally revamping his brand to get him more bookings here in the US and abroad. I literally remade him. But I made that investment after being together for a yr and a half after he'd already stood by me during some very rough times when both our families were at odds somewhat. And this is a man who's highly invested in his family and puts family first.

So, for me, I wouldn't do that for someone I met just a few months ago and then we "took a break" during that 6 month period.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:27pm
Yeah we're still thinking about this completely different.

That's why I asked you about how you approach this when it came to a friend so we could focus this a bit
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:29pm
Most likely we are...but in this scenario, I don't have an issue with her wanting to help him, that's her perogative. It's the "let me pop off at your fam" that I feel is jumping the gun considering how the relationship has been relayed so far. 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:30pm
I'm not even talking about her or her scenario at this point though.

But I see
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:32pm
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand she a Scorpio... GIRLUH!
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:34pm
Originally posted by BeatriceBean BeatriceBean wrote:

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand she a Scorpio... GIRLUH!


I'm a scorpio...don't put that on me lol.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:44pm
It wasn't to really say they are similar.I just want to gauge how people feel about helping or " upgrading" people on general.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:45pm
IMO an investment is an investment, whether it's a friend, relative, business contact or SO.

I can make more money, I can make more contacts. But my time is the most valuable thing I have. So if I take time from my life to help you out/point you in the right direction/etc, you need to know that the favor should be returned if and when the opportunity presents itself.

Because if I come to you in my time of need and you act salty...we're done.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:50pm
Originally posted by modelbusiness82 modelbusiness82 wrote:

IMO an investment is an investment, whether it's a friend, relative, business contact or SO.

I
can make more money, I can make more contacts. But my time is the most
valuable thing I have. So if I take time from my life to help you
out/point you in the right direction/etc, you need to know that the
favor should be returned if and when the opportunity presents itself.

Because if I come to you in my time of need and you act salty...we're done.





Damn.

See yeah I don't do favors with eye on getting a return on my investment .
I do it bc the person is my friend and I love then.

And ibc they love me I'm sure if I ever needed help they would help me without question.

But I don't look at it as a return .
Eww

The way your phrased that seems so cold and calculating.
I don't like friendships like that

Edited by jonesable - Feb 20 2013 at 4:51pm
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:51pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

 

Damn.

See yeah I don't do favors with eye on getting a return on my investment .
I do it bc the person is my friend and I love then.

And ibc they love me I'm sure if I ever needed help they would help me without question.

But I don't look at it as a return .
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