I Hate My Boyfriend's Family, With A Passion.....

PurpleHaze wrote: I think I look at it as an investment

Agreed it is. And I have no problem with doing it and being "Beyonce Upgrade You". But before I even considered going down that road, we'd been together for a year and a half and I felt 100% sure that the ROI was there.

modelbusiness82 wrote: Flowing-Ice wrote: i don't think she's upgrading him.  she's not spending money on him. tbh, she's not even doing the work.  he's bettering himself. thats not something she can take credit for.  IMO upgrading isn't always about spending money. Often it's just taking the time to cultivate someone's mind. Having done this with my fiance back in the day, I can say I would be very pissed/hurt to have helped gotten him on his feet and more only to have him be like "thanks so much" and chuck the deuce at me.

girrrrrlllllllll

this sh*t is still alive?

Dang, I wrote something good but of course BHM couldn't act right.

My point is basically, I have no problem investing in ppl, when they've proven they're a good investment. It's just good business. You wouldn't go to a job interview for Enron on the day they got indicted. So, why would you just blindly help ppl who throw up a lot of red flags.

I cant speak on how other ppl are approached for help, but for me it's always someone asking me to put them in contact with someone in my network who can take them to the next level. So, I'm not offering those contacts to someone I met a few weeks ago. How my friends interact with my contact is a direct reflection on myself, so I have to be careful.

In terms of my SO, yes I did motivational as well as basically being his marketing & PR rep and totally revamping his brand to get him more bookings here in the US and abroad. I literally remade him. But I made that investment after being together for a yr and a half after he'd already stood by me during some very rough times when both our families were at odds somewhat. And this is a man who's highly invested in his family and puts family first.

So, for me, I wouldn't do that for someone I met just a few months ago and then we "took a break" during that 6 month period.

Most likely we are...but in this scenario, I don't have an issue with her wanting to help him, that's her perogative. It's the "let me pop off at your fam" that I feel is jumping the gun considering how the relationship has been relayed so far.