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SamoneLenior View Drop Down

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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:03pm

rickysrose wrote:

I think it backfires

when the person doesn't want to be the student anymore

but still gets treated like one

you both have to make the shift to equals around the same time for this fixer-upper thing to work long term

or the teacher gets tired of being the teacher

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jonesable

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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:04pm

beebeexx wrote:

jonesable wrote:

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ScorpioLuv wrote:

For what? He's laughing at this now. I've helped him be healthy and start to get his life together, something his mom failed at. So huh?

OP, I don't know your man but I hope all this upgrading you did to him doesn't goes in vain and eventually leave you single.

I always hated this viewpoint.
When you help someone you do it for them not for you.
That seems kinda selfish.

If she did it for goodness sake it won't be in vain whether they stay together or not

girl you put your all into a man. make him emotionally, mentally, physically, soulfully, intellectually better and have him drop you without so much as a thank you... and then revisit that opinion.

believe me its not about selfishness at all.

I dont want a fix him up man though .

That's why I usually go for older .

I don't see why I'd put my blood sweat in tears into my boyfriend anyway.

But yeah I believe if you give , then give and forget about it and never speak of it again.

Saying it was all in vain if it doesn't work out does seem selfish to me.
I'm not sayi you won't feel slighted and hurt but to think it was all for naught?

Yeah that seems selfish imo

Plus sometimes ish doesn't work out.
That person isn't bound to you just bc you did them a few favors.

It can be much appreciated but sometimes it's time to leave

nitabug

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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:07pm

I've fixed up a few men. To this day, they all now know how to provide. Every last one has called me and thanked me. I am happy for the next chic. I don't wont them back either.

But I am not interested in that sh*t no more. I always felt like I was girlfriend purgatory/what ya momma and pops didn't teach you boot camp.

beebeexx

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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:08pm

i dont think the posters were just referring to the relationship ending or not working out, but about him "getting on" and suddenly becoming too good for her or whatever.
it's a thing. i've seen it happen.
for a multitude of reasons.

no they aren't obligated to stay around but it can feel like you're being used. like now that they feel better about themselves THEN they feel like they are ready to move on from the relationship. as if its time to end cause they've gotten everything they could from it.
it's not always a conscious thing either

i'll be damned if someone else gets to reap the benefits of my hard work... <<now thats possibly selfish i admit. but sh*t.

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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:09pm

nitabug wrote:

I've fixed up a few men. To this day, they all now know how to provide. Every last one has called me and thanked me. I am happy for the next chic. I don't wont them back either.

But I am not interested in that sh*t no more. I always felt like I was girlfriend purgatory/what ya momma and pops didn't teach you boot camp.

lol

yes, I really want people to raise their kids.....sheesh

jonesable

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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:09pm

Yes you have to balance those things.
Being a good person ain't the same as being someone's fool.

But saying your good doing is all for naught just comes off odd to me.
It wasn't all for naught if you help that person imp

Edited by jonesable - Feb 20 2013 at 3:10pm

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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:11pm

if she's posting naked pictures, why would the brother still be friends with her on facebook

i agree with whoever said its hypocritical to think that all the issues that the brother has qualifies him to hate and disrespect his family; yet you don't believe that her background probably is effecting her decisions right now.

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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:12pm

a guy with no mother relationship that needs such severe upgrading is def looking for a mother, not a gf. thats prob why he wasn't tryna fk at first, she was mama bear to him. luckily, he grew out of that but this dude is gonna get on her damn nerves by the 1 yr mark.

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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:13pm

i don't think she's upgrading him.

she's not spending money on him. tbh, she's not even doing the work.

he's bettering himself. thats not something she can take credit for. Confused