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ms_wonderland 
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 Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:15pm |
 Flowing-Ice wrote:
i don't think she's upgrading him. she's not spending money on him. tbh, she's not even doing the work.
he's bettering himself. thats not something she can take credit for.  |
i think she can take credit....upgrading doesnt have to mean spending money....she's def sacrificing her happiness and time for the sake of working through all his problems.
if a guy has ALL those problems but manages to fix them only when he starts dating her then it makes him seem kinda lazy and unmotivated...she motivated him. he was 28 and went throguh all those yrs thinking living like that was ok.
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SamoneLenior
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:15pm |
ms_wonderland wrote:
a guy with no mother relationship that needs such severe upgrading is def looking for a mother, not a gf. thats prob why he wasn't tryna fk at first, she was mama bear to him. luckily, he grew out of that but this dude is gonna get on her damn nerves by the 1 yr mark.
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yep
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Flowing-Ice
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:18pm |
ms_wonderland wrote:
Flowing-Ice wrote:
i don't think she's upgrading him. she's not spending money on him. tbh, she's not even doing the work.
he's bettering himself. thats not something she can take credit for. |
i think she can take credit....upgrading doesnt have to mean spending money....she's def sacrificing her happiness and time for the sake of working through all his problems.
if a guy has ALL those problems but manages to fix them only when he starts dating her then it makes him seem kinda lazy and unmotivated...she motivated him. he was 28 and went throguh all those yrs thinking living like that was ok. |
where? last time i heard, he bought her expensive gifts lol. gifts, free drinks and multiple orgasms. i'd say she's pretty happy.
motivation is not upgrading someone. but okay lol.
Edited by Flowing-Ice - Feb 20 2013 at 3:19pm
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kkscottdale
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:19pm |
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I haven't read the whole thread, but judging by the content so far, a man with this much problems need to be left alone.
I'm surprised OP's back isn't broken from all the ba ge
Edited by kkscottdale - Feb 20 2013 at 3:20pm
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ms_wonderland
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:20pm |
Flowing-Ice wrote:
ms_wonderland wrote:
Flowing-Ice wrote:
i don't think she's upgrading him. she's not spending money on him. tbh, she's not even doing the work.
he's bettering himself. thats not something she can take credit for. |
i think she can take credit....upgrading doesnt have to mean spending money....she's def sacrificing her happiness and time for the sake of working through all his problems.
if a guy has ALL those problems but manages to fix them only when he starts dating her then it makes him seem kinda lazy and unmotivated...she motivated him. he was 28 and went throguh all those yrs thinking living like that was ok. |
where? last time i heard, he bought her a TV or some sh*t lol. gifts, free drinks and multiple orgasms. i'd say she's pretty happy.
motivation is not upgrading someone. but okay lol. |
im talking about all the stuff she was sharing in the confessions thread. like others have said, to go details at this point would just be doing too much so ima leave it at that. lol
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nitabug
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:20pm |
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I don't think you have to spend money to upgrade someone, as long as you provide the path, connects or access, that's an upgrade.
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SamoneLenior
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:24pm |
nitabug wrote:
I don't think you have to spend money to upgrade someone, as long as you provide the path, connects or access, that's an upgrade.
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exactly
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funkydiva2
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:37pm |
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niecy
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:40pm |
Flowing-Ice wrote:
ms_wonderland wrote:
Flowing-Ice wrote:
i don't think she's upgrading him. she's not spending money on him. tbh, she's not even doing the work.
he's bettering himself. thats not something she can take credit for. |
i think she can take credit....upgrading doesnt have to mean spending money....she's def sacrificing her happiness and time for the sake of working through all his problems.
if a guy has ALL those problems but manages to fix them only when he starts dating her then it makes him seem kinda lazy and unmotivated...she motivated him. he was 28 and went throguh all those yrs thinking living like that was ok. |
where? last time i heard, he bought her expensive gifts lol. gifts, free drinks and multiple orgasms. i'd say she's pretty happy.
motivation is not upgrading someone. but okay lol.
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She was always saying how unhappy she was with some of the problems he had up until recently in the confessions thread.
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modelbusiness82
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Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:52pm |
jonesable wrote:
I always hated this viewpoint.
When you help someone you do it for them not for you.
That seems kinda selfish.
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IMO
the reason ppl keep saying this is the additional comments she makes
about being excited about them getting to the point when they don't need
anyone but each other. It gives the impression that there's a lot of
"in the by & by" planning happening and they haven't really been
together long enough to warrant that. Plus the investment she's making
to fight his battles with his family for him...without really having
been around long enough to make that scenario even begin to make sense. Yes
there's always a risk that when you help someone come up they could
totally drop you for the BBD, but I think in this specific instance,
people see how this relationship can go 10,000 ways sideways.
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