i hate cheaters...and i hate my nosey a*s...

ms_wonderland wrote: tbh, if he does bring it up he's not going to like shame him...he might be like, "*** is a good girl, u shouldnt be doin that"...but that's as far as it'll go.

even that would be better coming from him than anything coming from you, tbh. like you said earlier, you're new to the group and it would be as if you're starting drama, even if it's coming from a place of real concern for the girl.

do you think the girl should know? what do you think is the best outcome for the situation?

ms_wonderland wrote: There's a couple that I've been getting close to the past 6 mths.  I really like the guy and I really, really like the girl.  they're just a really chill, cute couple in a super LTR.  they just had a baby in December. So, I get home and decide to check my gmail.  For anyone with gmail, you know that when you go to gmail.com, if there is an account already signed in, the website goes directly to the inbox...and all emails on the first page are exposed. It was his email signed in.  I forgot that he had used my computer last night and had been looking up jobs and stuff.  Those were the first 3 emails.... I was about to log out but the woman in me just couldn't because I immediately noticed the hookup websites he had an account with...responses from sexual sounding usernames all on the 1st pg...so i thought about it for a while, then i decided to be nosey because i really like his girlfriend... now i regret looking because i saw things i really wish i hadn't and i knew i wasn't going to say shyt anyway and i was just being bored...but now i'm just like  damn myself. eta: based on the emails i saw, he is definitely cheating offline.

sache, don't bring that switch hitting shyt u into, into my thread. 

The baby was born december 2012 right, which would equal 3 months old ? The dog was cheating all along . I despise men that cheat on pregnant women . Stay out of it sweetie and only deal with her . Her hormones are all over the place . The women will go off on him and stay in the relationship . I would consider stepping away from both to avoid future things you may find out . I hope she will find out soon and leave before he ruins her life over some other stank Heffa .

Edited by india100 - Feb 07 2013 at 6:53pm

that's a tough one since you aren't friends. If it was a friend I'd tell . I'd probably find a way to tell her or let her find out anyway if it was someone I was trying to build a friendship with. Putting myself in her place, I'd want her to tell me. It's hard to know when to tell though and you have to be willing to risk fallout from  'the telling.'

Sort of reminds me of another dilemma I faced-- if you overhear something do you keep it to yourself? By overhear, I mean a married someone unknowingly left a full-disclosure conversation about their affair on your voicemail . Keep it to yourself?