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tbh, if he does bring it up he's not going to like shame him...he might be like, "*** is a good girl, u shouldnt be doin that"...but that's as far as it'll go.  
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Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

tbh, if he does bring it up he's not going to like shame him...he might be like, "*** is a good girl, u shouldnt be doin that"...but that's as far as it'll go.  



even that would be better coming from him than anything coming from you, tbh. like you said earlier, you're new to the group and it would be as if you're starting drama, even if it's coming from a place of real concern for the girl.

do you think the girl should know? what do you think is the best outcome for the situation?
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Originally posted by Ladybird0724 Ladybird0724 wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

tbh, if he does bring it up he's not going to like shame him...he might be like, "*** is a good girl, u shouldnt be doin that"...but that's as far as it'll go.  



even that would be better coming from him than anything coming from you, tbh. like you said earlier, you're new to the group and it would be as if you're starting drama, even if it's coming from a place of real concern for the girl.

do you think the girl should know? what do you think is the best outcome for the situation?

i think she should know b/c based on conversations i've had with her, i know what she wants and expects from her relationship...even though i haven't known her long, i guess i feel added empathy b/c she's one of the 1st friends i made here and she was easy to get along with.

i don't know what the best thing would be which is why i wish i never looked!! Cry
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Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

There's a couple that I've been getting close to the past 6 mths.  I really like the guy and I really, really like the girl.  they're just a really chill, cute couple in a super LTR.  they just had a baby in December.

So, I get home and decide to check my gmail.  For anyone with gmail, you know that when you go to gmail.com, if there is an account already signed in, the website goes directly to the inbox...and all emails on the first page are exposed.

It was his email signed in.  I forgot that he had used my computer last night and had been looking up jobs and stuff.  Those were the first 3 emails....

I was about to log out but the woman in me just couldn't because I immediately noticed the hookup websites he had an account with...responses from sexual sounding usernames all on the 1st pg...so i thought about it for a while, then i decided to be nosey because i really like his girlfriend...

now i regret looking because i saw things i really wish i hadn't and i knew i wasn't going to say shyt anyway and i was just being bored...but now i'm just like SleepySleepySleepySleepy damn myself.

eta: based on the emails i saw, he is definitely cheating offline.






You in a open relationship with this couple? DeadConfused
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Girl you don't have to say a daggone word. Play like you don't know anything and keep your laptop open the next time you guys hang out. When he logs on and forgets to log off then pass the laptop to the girl friend and ask her if she wants to use the laptop before you log on the BHM, that you will be a while. Most likely she will say no she doesn't need to use it....Just drop the laptop in her lap.
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sache, don't bring that switch hitting shyt u into, into my thread. Sleepy
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Originally posted by Ladybird0724 Ladybird0724 wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

tbh, if he does bring it up he's not going to like shame him...he might be like, "*** is a good girl, u shouldnt be doin that"...but that's as far as it'll go.  



even that would be better coming from him than anything coming from you, tbh. like you said earlier, you're new to the group and it would be as if you're starting drama, even if it's coming from a place of real concern for the girl.

do you think the girl should know? what do you think is the best outcome for the situation?
 
if you're bf does that you might save the relationship. telling her might break up that family. it will mean more coming from a guy too.
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The baby was born december 2012 right, which would equal 3 months old ? The dog was cheating all along . I despise men that cheat on pregnant women . Stay out of it sweetie and only deal with her . Her hormones are all over the place .
 
 
The women will go off on him and stay in the relationship . I would consider stepping away from both to avoid future things you may find out . I hope she will find out soon and leave before he ruins her life over some other stank Heffa .

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Forward the emails to urself. Keep proof. Delete the forwarded emails from his sent box. Stay quiet, until the time is right. She might be doing dirt too. They might have an open relationship. Wait and gather information. When u have enough info, then make a decision.
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that's a tough one since you aren't friends. If it was a friend I'd tell . I'd probably find a way to tell her or let her find out anyway if it was someone I was trying to build a friendship with. Putting myself in her place, I'd want her to tell me. It's hard to know when to tell though and you have to be willing to risk fallout from  'the telling.'

Sort of reminds me of another dilemma I faced-- if you overhear something do you keep it to yourself? By overhear, I mean a married someone unknowingly left a full-disclosure conversation about their affair on your voicemail . Keep it to yourself?
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