I don't know how to describe it but if you act like you don't know who you are.
If you don't have an opinion (not necessarily a stance) on important issues.
If you need cosigners for anything.
If you yell at your kids while we're on the phone.
If you speak in generalizations.
If you want to go camping, hiking, 4-wheeling, shooting, mountain climbing, skiing, sledding or snowboarding all the time.
If you're a hipster without a cause.
If you're lazy.
If you have a bunch of excuses for why your life is nothing like you want it and no active plans to change it.