I BC and I think I Regret It

My last relaxer was 6 months ago.  I didn't intend to transition but it kind of happened.  Eventually my relaxed ends started to break off so I decided wth.  I went to a hair salon today, the barber reluctantly did my chop.  When he made the first cut, I thought wow I can't believe I'm doing this.  I rode the subway home and I just felt like everyone was looking at me.  I tried to beat my husband home so I would have a chance to wash it and put some product on it to bring out the curl, but he was home and the look on his face said it all.  He hated it.  I did wash it and used aveda be curl and qp mango butter and it still looks crazy. Its curly in some spots, straight in others. I'm thinking this might be a mistake, but there is no going back from a big chop 

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Ugh.. stupid replacement phone!!

MsKraizy maybe you are right, I will get used to it.  I have like a lopsided fro now because it curled tightly on the right side and then I don't know what its doing on the left.  Then there are some straight parts in the back on the right side. I'm like WTH.  My mother has done this many times and her hair just curls automatically.  But usually when she did it her hair was shorter than mine.  I did transition for 6 months so my hair is almost as long as my pinky when stretched.  I hope I feel okay with it in time. 

I bet it looks georgous... I'm sure in time you will find a way to make your hair work for you, until then just know you have a one up on tons of women who are tired of perms but to scared to BC, including me! Just like the other ladies said, keep it healthy and I'm sure you will love it!!!

(((((hugs)))))

i can't imagine how you feel.  but i do send you support.

(not the same as a big chop, but i will tell you my experience all the times i went to a salon and they chopped without my consent)  i would cry about it for a day.  then pick my chin up and remind myself that no matter how bad it was on that day, every singe day from that moment forward, my hair was GROWING.  it will GROW.  it won't stay that short forever.   (one time i called my mom and had her bring a scarf to the salon because i refused to walk outside with my hair that short....sigh.......)

i would encourage you to deep condition and take care of your hair so that your hair is in it's best condition.  then see what "she" can do.  be creative.  look for new options. 

keep your head up. you are beautiful no matter what. 

also, try not to be mad at hubby.  you don't like and neither does he, so you two agree.  that makes you simpatico!  remember you are a team.  as you progress through this journey, you both will find a happy place. 

good luck!