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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote ImThatDiva Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 31 2013 at 11:10pm
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

I think the OP and her husband are in the military so that maybe why the baby is with the grandma so long
Ahhh see now that's entirely something different.
The military doesn't allow someone to be on permanent leave or something like that if they have a child? Like do they have special provision for parents?
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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

I think the OP and her husband are in the military so that maybe why the baby is with the grandma so long
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Yea it is haaaaard having a child with both parents are in the military...and since bby is 10 driving hours we have to request leave and all that.
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I had to send him with my mom last year cuz bby kept getting sick. Got pneumonia twice and had theflu once. Both our supervision said we were taking too much time off...since he can't go to daycare while sick. Waaaay too much drama w these ppl.
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Is there any possible way you and your husband can move closer to your mother so the three of you can help care for your child? If you MIL doesn't have time or doesn't want to help out then you have to just deal with it. She is done raising her children. It is great as a parent when you get help and have tons of support but nobody owes you the help.

As a couple the two of you should be able to find a situation to your problem. If you can't both move then maybe one can go ahead while the other stays behind. It is not ideal but it is a temp fix. You have to tell your husband, he is your partner. I would not put in as if his mother should be helping but that your mother is stressed out right now.
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Originally posted by Princess_S Princess_S wrote:

Go pick up YOUR child cause its inconveniencing YOUR mom.

pretty much

just noted military etc..

tough one

can you not extended leave of absence or something?

good luck ..

i do think its unfair to expect someone to help in with your child at the end of the day.

your mom is/was being kind enough, but you really shouldnt be expecting yoru MIL to step in.

and since you know she is reluctant already, is this the person you want to watch your child?

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i thought you had 2 kids bebe?
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote ThoughtCouture Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Feb 01 2013 at 8:54am
Originally posted by bebe88 bebe88 wrote:

my side is actually stepping up.
 
i was with you till i got to this part.  originally i thought this was something maybe the grandparents requested and that his mom was pulling a reverse reverse.  but that part made me think you asked them and not the other way around...
 
bottom line, i'd have to go get my baby...


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hmmm....just read this page and i see that both parents are in the military.

i am really not a fan of this arrangement...that is...2 parents in the military, especially with mos's that require regular tdy...having small children without a SOLID support structure...
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All kinds of shade up in this thread. Those who live in glass houses.. Sleepy
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