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Go get YOUR baby and all this wont be an issue. It is really no point to talk with the MIL as this is your child. Yes you prob had an agreement however that is your child. The child can spend time with the grandparents for longer durations when he is much older. Until then there is family vacations.
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Originally posted by Princess_S Princess_S wrote:

Go pick up YOUR child cause its inconveniencing YOUR mom.


This right chea. That's your child anyway. No need to stress your mom out over a child that technically isn't her responsibility to take care of to begin with..
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Did your MIL know that she was going to take half of the responsibility of the baby prior to you leaving him there? Did your hubby think this as well? I am not understanding why you wouldn't talk to him about it, or even talk to your MIL about it. A NICE phone may be in order.
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Originally posted by bubblyboo bubblyboo wrote:

Man that would kind of hurt my feelings. I don't know a grandparent who doesn't luuuub the granbabies. I think you should go and get your son and don't bother with the mil spending time with your bby boy. Let whoever wants to be involved be involved on their own accord. 

we feel the same way. I told my mom, until we get there next weekend, do not call her to watch him unless its absolutely necessary. If mil wants to see bby, she needs to call my mom....and offer to go to my moms house. If not, her loss, we will pass by to see her on our way back home.
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Yes she knew. No one wants to be the bad guy that calls her out on it. I'm not talking to him about it bc my mom asked me not to mention it.
Originally posted by freedom76 freedom76 wrote:

Did your MIL know that she was going to take half of the responsibility of the baby prior to you leaving him there? Did your hubby think this as well? I am not understanding why you wouldn't talk to him about it, or even talk to your MIL about it. A NICE phone may be in order.
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Originally posted by bebe88 bebe88 wrote:

Yes she knew. No one wants to be the bad guy that calls her out on it. I'm not talking to him about it bc my mom asked me not to mention it.
Originally posted by freedom76 freedom76 wrote:

Did your MIL know that she was going to take half of the responsibility of the baby prior to you leaving him there? Did your hubby think this as well? I am not understanding why you wouldn't talk to him about it, or even talk to your MIL about it. A NICE phone may be in order.


I am not saying to call her out. I meant NICE for realLOL. Does your husband talk to his mother regularly? All relationships are different, but when it comes to my children, me and hubby talk and vent about everything. I know you are upset, but maybe your husband can offer some real solutions.
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Originally posted by bebe88 bebe88 wrote:

Originally posted by bubblyboo bubblyboo wrote:

Man that would kind of hurt my feelings. I don't know a grandparent who doesn't luuuub the granbabies. I think you should go and get your son and don't bother with the mil spending time with your bby boy. Let whoever wants to be involved be involved on their own accord. 

we feel the same way. I told my mom, until we get there next weekend, do not call her to watch him unless its absolutely necessary. If mil wants to see bby, she needs to call my mom....and offer to go to my moms house. If not, her loss, we will pass by to see her on our way back home.


I understand where you are coming from. You all made an arrangement with your mom and mil while you and hubby take care of a few things, move etc etc which is extremely difficult with a 1 year old and to boot, bby boy would get to spend some time with his grandparents. Everyone was fine with it but now that things are in motion its a train wreck with the bulk of the responsibility on your mom when originally it wasn't supposed to be that way. If everyone would have stuck to the plan then it wouldn't seem soo.... weird and would be like a little vaca for bby with both grandmas. Now it seems like you're just dumping him and its all your fault with you and your son burdening everyone. I get how you feel. My feelings would be really hurt. Most grandparents would be jumping for joy for something like this.


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Go and get your baby. Grandma want to educate herself. MIL wants to live life. Raise your baby. 3 months is too long of a visit. A visit is the weekend or the summer if grandma was a teacher on summer break. Tell your husband only after the baby is back with you. This way there's no miscommunication later. Baby at 1 years old is a lot of work. Jmo
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Originally posted by freedom76 freedom76 wrote:

Originally posted by bebe88 bebe88 wrote:

Yes she knew. No one wants to be the bad guy that calls her out on it. I'm not talking to him about it bc my mom asked me not to mention it.
Originally posted by freedom76 freedom76 wrote:

Did your MIL know that she was going to take half of the responsibility of the baby prior to you leaving him there? Did your hubby think this as well? I am not understanding why you wouldn't talk to him about it, or even talk to your MIL about it. A NICE phone may be in order.


I am not saying to call her out. I meant NICE for realLOL. Does your husband talk to his mother regularly? All relationships are different, but when it comes to my children, me and hubby talk and vent about everything. I know you are upset, but maybe your husband can offer some real solutions.


that sounds like good advice.  I retract my comment bebe that you shouldn't talk to hubby lol.  Its good that he should know whats going on with your family and his.  That way if your MIL says something to him, he's already heard about the lack of steppin up on her part.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (2) Thanks(2)   Quote EPITOME Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jan 31 2013 at 5:17pm
oh yes and absolutely speak to your husband
that shouldn't even be up for discussion imo tbh fwiw all of that
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