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zsazsa 
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 Posted: Mar 22 2013 at 1:30pm |
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Thanks for your replies. It does put them both in a vulnerable position, what if he accidentally touched her bottom then she said to me he's touching her bum etc. There's just no need to put either of them a situation where there could be problems. I'm going to speak to nspcc this afternoon for advice, email ex so there's a record I've asked for it to stop then if it hasn't after next contact he'll have to have day contact only and take me to court.
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zsazsa
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Posted: Mar 22 2013 at 1:31pm |
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The thing is, is that the father is a pitta! stupid man. If he cannot see a problem, he will lie to the court/mother. He is the type of man you just would not be able to co-parent with. There will be issues an issues all day long.
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Posted: Mar 22 2013 at 1:37pm |
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Why not just videotape the child.
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Somebody actually suggested this as well as voice recording and getting the child to draw pictures if she can not communicate, but someone else responded with:
I think people are overreacting here. I am a SW working in child protection so have some knowledge about these matters. The girl has made no allegations other than she is sharing a room (not a bed) with a 10 year old and he had an erection in the morning (not unusual for boys). She has also watched films she found scary. These things are inappropriate but not child protection. It is up to the parents to sort this out. The girl should not be sharing with the boy. Until her dad and his partner can accept this then OP could stop her DD going. You could call SS for advice but i doubt that they would do anything further. Recording anything without knowledge of the person you're recording could work against you massively in court.
Response: Why does child protection only kick in after something unlawful happens? It gives the lie to the word protection if it's purely retrospective? And yes, 10 year old's morning erections are absolutely normal, but why should any 5 year old have to wake up with it in their feckingface?
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Posted: Mar 22 2013 at 1:38pm |
what has caused this selective mutism? Trauma?
Does the daughter work with a professional to work through this?
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Posted: Mar 22 2013 at 1:45pm |
in the meantime she can send a covert video or voice recorder with the daughter for these visits ... unknown to the daughter
this way the mother can be assured about what is happening with her child in the meantime while she works out the details
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Posted: Mar 22 2013 at 1:48pm |
zsazsa wrote:
Is it a child protection issue? I was reading this on another forum and just think the father has NO sense.
Just to explain, the father has access via the courts so the mother can't just remove her child from the situation without breaking the court order. Also the child in the thread has selective mutism, so would not be able to communicate with Social workers etc. The mother legally cannot stop her daughter sleeping over at the father's house. The father does not see a problem with the current arrangement and has refused to change the sleeping arrangements. <span style="line-height: 1.4;"> </span>
What would you do?
<span style="color: rgb34, 34, 34; line-height: normal; : rgb192, 192, 192;">My Daughter is only just 5. She sees her father every other weekend. He has a girlfriend who has a ten year old brother who often sleeps over when DD is there. Her father bought a bunk bed for her room with a double bed on the bottom, which she says they usually share. There is another spare room in the house so no need for them to share rooms let alone beds IMO. She spoke about his 'bits pointing up' when he woke last week and I feel very uncomfortable about them sharing a bed/room. What to do? </span> |
the specialist child therapist i sleep with aka the mrs says = 'evidence of psychological trauma' suggests that the social workers involved involve a play therapist she was going on and on so i cut out after two minutes after i got what i wanted
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Posted: Mar 22 2013 at 3:04pm |
afrokock wrote:
the specialist child therapist i sleep with aka the mrs says = 'evidence of psychological trauma' suggests that the social workers involved involve a play therapist
she was going on and on so i cut out after two minutes after i got what i wanted
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you speak of her so lovingly (not being sarcastic)
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Posted: Mar 22 2013 at 3:05pm |
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video sounds like a good idea.
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Posted: Mar 22 2013 at 3:22pm |
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If I had a child and they told me this I'd find out how I can deal with this in the most legally damaging way possible for the father, girlfriend and her son and see how they like it. :l
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Posted: Mar 22 2013 at 3:23pm |
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What a waste of father....
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