More from the mother:
I've told him I'm not happy before, he insists that as he knows the boy and I don't it's up to him to judge.
AIBU to say they should sleep in separate rooms altogether? Although they'd still watch films in bed together which also worries me as ex lets her watch the boys choice of film - usually transformers - which is a bit sexy ( not to mention scary!)
But surely if I stopped contact and it went to court he could just lie and say they have separate rooms and make me out to be a contact blocker? DD has selective mutism and would never in a million years speak to CAFCASS or anyone.
That's the thing - she has selective mutism so doesn't talk at school which makes it easy for him to say I'm lying.
I completely agree that it must stop but I do feel he'll just lie and continue doing as he pleases. In which case what do I do when DD won't confirm what I've said and may even deny it if dad tells her she'd be stopped from seeing the boy.
I will speak to children's services, thank you.
DD has always had an issue with who she speaks to - there's only 5 people she speaks to. She went her entire time at nursery without talking to an adult once and now at primary will read words to teacher but doesn't speak to any adults or children. It's only this past fortnight the teacher has acknowledged there's an issue and the SENCO has become involved.