| sexyandfamous wrote:|
I think one should first and foremost love herself, that way she won't fall into the i-don't-want-to-be-alone rat race and stick with a guy whom she knows is cheating/lying.
Many women do not trust their men and are all over his facebook, twitter, phone, just to see if anyone else has been around them. That is a sign that the girl knows something is up, but she chooses to be stressing herself instead of bidding goodbye to the guy and enjoy her single life/find a new guy.
It is hard to catch a man on a lie because many are so used to lying in order to keep the main chick, that they will tell her anything to keep her on a leash - but not too short of a leash so he can continue to stray. Actions are important, and if his actions don't match his words, it is better to be single.
Major cosign, self-love is highly important.
Actually OP, you've posted some threads here before featuring rather toxic man trouble.
Please take a break from dating. I want you to get comfortable with yourself. Take the time to heal yourself and build up your confidence and self-love.
Definitely read the books in the thread SaF linked, the books do detail on working with guys but if there's one thing that is the core of the book's principles, it's SELF LOVE.
Self love is highly necessary and the driving force in you being respected and accepting the men you want. You're no doormat. Why take men who will walk on you?
You take the time to get comfortable with yourself. Take the time to love yourself and ingrain it in every fiber of your being that if a man comes your way, he better be a good man if he's going to stay in your presence or you're walking away. Self love is loving yourself enough to give yourself quality and not settle for less just because it's there.
Take a good and long break, hun. I think your heart needs healing.