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OP, I just read your other thread (after having read this one). I knew you were doing somethig great with your life. IGNORE that family member. You are on a fast track to doing great things with your education and career. Focus on the GOOD YOU, and not on whatever may have happened (and being so frequently rehashed to you) in the past. You have grown up and moved on.

Good luck in your PhD program!
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i drop them, just like anyone else. i want a stress/drama free life and anyone messin that up for me is history. you can forgive but you dont have to talk to'em. i just get gone with the quickness.

well thats what i do anyways






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yes. i dont have a problem cutting toxic people out of my life. i refuse to be around that type of atmosphere if i can help it.
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Originally posted by Organic Organic wrote:

OP, I just read your other thread (after having read this one). I knew you were doing somethig great with your life. IGNORE that family member. You are on a fast track to doing great things with your education and career. Focus on the GOOD YOU, and not on whatever may have happened (and being so frequently rehashed to you) in the past. You have grown up and moved on.

Good luck in your PhD program!

i agree. 

OP if you can, distance yourself from toxic ppl 
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so this person has you living in a house of horror and your putting money over your emotional well being?  youre situation will change when you do, when youve decided youve had enough.  you cant really sit around waiting for someone to respect you and its certainly nothing you ask for.  respect is something that should be demanded, it requires action, and a love of self, something you may not be ready for. 
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OP, you are focused on the wrong point.  Yes, she is negative, but you are allowing it to affect your life.  You will always find plenty of negative people.  Nothing you can do about that, but you need to harden up some and never allow someone to get the best of you.  Never volunteer to be someone's doormat.Hug
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I do not own the home. It's my parents' house and yes, I am leaving as soon as I have saved up enough money. I've just started one job and I am about to interview for another. I am doing the best that I can.
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Which one of your parents is it? Why aren't they paying whoever's schooling costs?

I don't need those questions answered to tell you though, it's too damn many
grown folks in that house. You need to move out, and soon.

Get a roommate if you have to. Keep your past / present business to yourself.  
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Originally posted by Ladydlite Ladydlite wrote:

I do not own the home. It's my parents' house and yes, I am leaving as soon as I have saved up enough money. I've just started one job and I am about to interview for another. I am doing the best that I can.
 
Good. Keep your head up and work toward your goals - stay away from her as much as possible. Do not come into conflict with her or get into any sort of confrontation.
 
When your money is right - rent a place, get it set up and then pack your stuff and get the heck out of there. Don't look back.
 
Go on with your life.
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im just waiting for this person to read the op's post, make an account and turn this thread messy

Edited by bunzaveli - Dec 04 2012 at 7:13am
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