Ha-- I'm reading this lil' book called Why Men Love Bitches
, right now. I've been a doormat for guys, and that needs to stop. So, the author makes some interesting points, like:
"The biggest difference between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear.
The bitch shows that she's not afraid to be without him." Thus, making her more desirable to him.
She gives some practical tips on how to up your bitch quotient in the eyes of your dates. For example, her "recipes" for what to cook him in the first few weeks include popcorn, hot dogs, and coffee.
That way, you're not bending over backwards before you even know if this man is someone who deserves it.
Maybe you could get something out of it, too. It's about bitchiness in dating, but that's as good a place to start as any, I think.