I agree with the other girls. LET IT GO!
He spoke with you for a minute right? Well job or not ... he would have asked for your number if he were interested. PERIOD
Hey, I sure wish my mother had told me all this stuff when I was young - would have saved me a world of confusion .. but once I got a clue .. I was good to go. You will be too .. you just cannot usurp a man's role in this area (like the above poster said).
By making the first move .. you screw up the balance of power in a relationship. (your power over him)
It's called 'The Dating Game' for a reason.
And yes, it IS a turn on for a girl to approach a guy first .. but that's just it. It's TURN ON
He will use you for sex if he can ... and leave you sitting in his wake wondering ... 'What happened'?
Gosh, this is 2012 .. but honestly SOME THINGS NEVER CHANGE. Never.
This is because guys are almost genetically driven to PURSUE. But you have to give them something to pursue and trigger the chase or else POOF you were too easy to get. So innately he will value you less so in short order ... he will move on to another target that is not quite so easy to get. A guy wants a girls that is of VALUE ... not a girl that appears a bit forward (read: desparate).
This is why they say, be attractive and alluring (this is your gender role) but let him take the hint and make a move. If he makes a move .. don't be too AVAILABLE. Make him work for it. Tell him you don't give out your number but you do give out your email. Or tell him you don't give out your number .. and wait until he offers his ... then make him wait until you call him.
If he does not make a move ... either he is not interested, he's interested but he's married or in a relationship (don't let this kind of man turn you into a tramp!),he's distracted and missed the chance to get your number (too bad), he's too intimidated to ask for it (knowing he will likely never see you again!)
Also, often there are guys that are maladjusted (read: weak) and kindof messed up in terms of women. This kind of guy will be glad you made a move because he does not have the balls to do it himself.
Now .. this is an indication of things to come.You will be stuck will a guy that 'ain't right, ain't savy'and the list goes on. Basically a weak man .. that you will have to 'carry' .. so to speak.
1) You will end up with a guy that will either use you for sex ... and then move on or
2) A guy that is socially inept ... so then he never does stuff 'right'.
(Of course, there are exceptions.)
But in general I say ... leave that guy alone. (Not trying to offend you .. but like I said .. I wish someone has told me all this stuff when I was young.
Edited by Becky - Oct 13 2012 at 5:16pm