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Posted: Oct 08 2012 at 12:24am |
answers from men and women both is appreciated. men, how would you want a woman to approach you? women, how would you approach a man?
edited to add- more specifically, the other day i met this attractive guy at his job he works at a mall i frequent. i feel it would be weird seeing him again because he doesnt work in a general store its kind of hidden where he works so it would be weird seeing him again initially since i kind of have to seek him out a lil bit you know? we had a pretty good conversation that attracted even more and he was really nice . i thought he was older than what he was but he told me he was the same age as me. i'm attracted to older guys. i could tell he was mature for his age (ppl tell me i'm mature for my age too) the reason i didnt have a longer conversation the first time besides he was working, male best friend was present a lil awkward for me but he even told me i shouldve went for it  . i'm going to the mall again tomorrow with another friend but dont wanna talk to him around her because she would def block advice but advice??
Edited by Ashleyano - Oct 08 2012 at 3:35am
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Posted: Oct 08 2012 at 1:29am |
Same way guys approach women basically. Just think about the best way a guy ever approached you and then approach a guy in that way. You might be surprised that the same thing that works for women works for men. Men LOVE to be gamed by women though! (from my experience) You gotta compliment them, don't be shy or uptight, just be open and joke around with him a little. Also, I don't touch guys when I'm approaching them though..just thought I'd add that in for whatever reason. Oh yeah, and I don't ask for their numbers because once we get into some conversation they transition into the chaser and if they're interested, they'll ask.
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Posted: Oct 08 2012 at 1:43am |
I don't believe in approaching men. I think when a woman does that she sets the stage to be the dominant personality in the relationship.
If that's your thing cool... but with chicks I know who pursue, they always end up with with weak guys who don't step up or guys who don't put in any effort to impress them.
I realize I didn't answer your specific question  but none the less I hope it helped in some way |
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Posted: Oct 08 2012 at 3:39am |
 PiiNkBaYZeBrA wrote:
Same way guys approach women basically. Just think about the best way a guy ever approached you and then approach a guy in that way. You might be surprised that the same thing that works for women works for men. Men LOVE to be gamed by women though! (from my experience) You gotta compliment them, don't be shy or uptight, just be open and joke around with him a little. Also, I don't touch guys when I'm approaching them though..just thought I'd add that in for whatever reason. Oh yeah, and I don't ask for their numbers because once we get into some conversation they transition into the chaser and if they're interested, they'll ask. |
honestly i can't even think of any good examples of guys who've approached me 98% of the time its "how you doing?" *while sizing me up or looking like they wanna eat me* i edited my op, but our original convo i joked a lil bit now my dilemma is do i be bold and say "i think your really cute"
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Posted: Oct 08 2012 at 3:44am |
Anah wrote:
I don't believe in approaching men. I think when a woman does that she sets the stage to be the dominant personality in the relationship.
If that's your thing cool... but with chicks I know who pursue, they always end up with with weak guys who don't step up or guys who don't put in any effort to impress them.
I realize I didn't answer your specific question but none the less I hope it helped in some way |
i honestly havent tried approaching first but i'm not afraid to try it, your answer helped a lil because i never thought about that, i edited my op btw..but i guess my question would be you think there is a difference between being dominant and confident?
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Posted: Oct 08 2012 at 12:19pm |
I think there is a difference. Your confidence is what will drive you to get his number or ask him out first, that fine. But your confidence may lead you to be a dominant force in the relationship. Like you will be leading... you will have to call 1st, text 1st, you will have set dates etc...
If anything I would say give him your number and tell him he should call you sometime. That way when he calls, you will know if he is truly interested and the "chase" would be on him. Also the fact that hes at work, it would kinda be unprofessional of him to be macking and giving out his number while on the clock.
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Posted: Oct 08 2012 at 3:33pm |
Don't do it. Then BHM will leave you broke, baldheaded, and bitter.
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Posted: Oct 08 2012 at 5:11pm |
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IDK...I personally would never approach a guy, but I have seen other women do it and get positive results. Hey this is 2012, we all are entitle to go after what we want!!! So, you can do this two ways:
1. Walk in the store, ask him if he has a girl...if the answer is no, give him your number and tell him to call you sometimes
2. Take a friend to the store with you (not the blocker) and while you are perusing different items far away, you friend will reveal to him that you like him. She then will tell him to ask you for your number.
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Posted: Oct 08 2012 at 8:44pm |
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It may be 2012 but women can't do every thing men do.stop trying to usurp the man's role and play your part as a woman.you can be open and inviting, but going up to a man and approaching? Don't do it. You gone look thirsty. If he did not have to chase you, he won't value you. So if you just looking for some part time dyck go head, but don't be approaching no man thinking anything good will come out of it.do you want a submissive bitch ass weak man? Or a man who's dealing with you because you came to him and he feels something is better than nothing? Whatever happened to a little mystery and womanly allure?
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Posted: Oct 08 2012 at 10:27pm |
Anah wrote:
I think there is a difference. Your confidence is what will drive you to get his number or ask him out first, that fine. But your confidence may lead you to be a dominant force in the relationship. Like you will be leading... you will have to call 1st, text 1st, you will have set dates etc...
If anything I would say give him your number and tell him he should call you sometime. That way when he calls, you will know if he is truly interested and the "chase" would be on him. Also the fact that hes at work, it would kinda be unprofessional of him to be macking and giving out his number while on the clock. |
yea that's why i was hesitant to go back since he's at work. but thanks for the suggestion
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