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I don't mind a long engagement....That will give me enough time to really decide if I want to marry him.

 I rather have a long engagement than a short marriage.
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I cosign everything uppitynegroid said

If you're engaged longer than a year or two with no wedding date in sight, you're just a girlfriend with a ring
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You ask me to marry you we goin' to the courthouse ASAP.

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Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I don't mind a long engagement....That will give me enough time to really decide if I want to marry him.

 I rather have a long engagement than a short marriage.


Why don't you figure out if you want to marry a man before you accept his marriage proposal?  Da hell?
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Originally posted by zolloh zolloh wrote:

We think our friend's bf proposed to shut her up, they had been dating 6months and she was already whining about "when is my time?, lets just break up then"...he thought the wedding would be a year+ later...she wanted a wedding asap, wedding was 2months after engagement, which she said was actually late, she paid for it Stern Smile


WTH did I just read? LOL
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Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I don't mind a long engagement....That will give me enough time to really decide if I want to marry him.

 I rather have a long engagement than a short marriage.


Why don't you figure out if you want to marry a man before you accept his marriage proposal?  Da hell?


I might change my mind. I might want to do certain things before I decided to take the final. Not everyone is ready to jump right into marriage ! sh*t happens.




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Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I don't mind a long engagement....That will give me enough time to really decide if I want to marry him.

 I rather have a long engagement than a short marriage.


Why don't you figure out if you want to marry a man before you accept his marriage proposal?  Da hell?


I might change my mind. I might want to do certain things before I decided to take the final. Not everyone is ready to jump right into marriage ! sh*t happens.






An engagement is not a trial run.  It means you are certain this is the person you want to marry.  If you are not sure, you keep dating until you are sure.  If you still want to "do certain things" its best to do them as a single woman, not as a fiancee. 
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Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I don't mind a long engagement....That will give me enough time to really decide if I want to marry him.

 I rather have a long engagement than a short marriage.


Why don't you figure out if you want to marry a man before you accept his marriage proposal?  Da hell?


I might change my mind. I might want to do certain things before I decided to take the final. Not everyone is ready to jump right into marriage ! sh*t happens.






An engagement is not a trial run.  It means you are certain this is the person you want to marry.  If you are not sure, you keep dating until you are sure.  If you still want to "do certain things" its best to do them as a single woman, not as a fiancee. 


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Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by BBpants BBpants wrote:

I don't mind a long engagement....That will give me enough time to really decide if I want to marry him.

 I rather have a long engagement than a short marriage.


Why don't you figure out if you want to marry a man before you accept his marriage proposal?  Da hell?


I ask that same question when people are surprised by a proposal.

Isn't that the kind of decision you and SO have been discussing before it happens?

I get not knowing the exact day/time...but not knowing that it's going to happen at all is weird.
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