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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (5) Thanks(5)   Quote Wildfire Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 12:25pm
He doesnt want to marry her. 

women need to stop bringing up marriage and coercing men into putting a ring on it. 
This is real life, not a music video.
If the man wants to marry you, you wont have to say a damn thing.
If you make him put a ring on it, expect a long engagement and if you do make it to the alter, a sh*tty crash and burn marriage after.
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When you have to ask how long is too long, its already been too long.

At some point you just a girl with a ring and delusions......
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I don't think there's a too long or too short. Depends on the couple and what they want.

I don't mind long engagements.
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Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:


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then they shouldn't be parading around pretending to have cupcakes and starbursts. 





 




Gyal who are you talking about? Not everyone does that. I can only speak for myself, and I NEVER pretend like everything was perfect in my relationship. Truth is people change over time, and their true colors start to show over time. Which is when I left him, and haven't looked back since. Smile I dodged a bullet fah real

 


I'm talking about anyone it applies to...wearing the ring in itself is implying things are great...engagements and baby births are supposed to be a joyous time but ppl just like to take the joy out of the good things in life by having both in ratchet situations. People need to just wait until they're ready.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote goodm3 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 3:40pm
Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by goodm3 goodm3 wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by goodm3 goodm3 wrote:

Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Decorum really alludes many young people nowadays.  I think what I've gotten from this thread is that some people see a marriage proposal as a romantic gesture.  That's just not the case.  Its not a "I would like to marry you some day."  A proposal is a big deal.  Its a formal declaration of  your intent to marry in the immediate future.  If both people are not ready for that, then they should stick to more informal gestures like romantic gifts. 


EXACTLY. 

i seems a lot of women only want to be called wifey rather than having a marriage license. 




When people actually get the proposal they really understand it.......until then its a case of if it was me but it aint you and daydreaming is easy


No shade......

I understand but I think a lot of women never set expectations for their relationships. there are women out there who seriously believe they will not ever get married so when a guy moves in...they think that's as good as it gets. 

Couples that really want to get married, do it. Whether its a court house wedding with a fancy ceremony/destination wedding later...either way, they make it official. 


People aint living together as a relationship step.....mugs just need to split the billsLOL

I would rather be engaged for 100 years before I have a courthouse wedding.....idgaf....judge away.....

girl.....LOL my side eye is heavy on you right now... LOL
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote EPITOME Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 4:00pm
hmmm i dont mind a courthouse wedding tbh. a marriage and a wedding are two different things.

my mom and i were just talking about this bc a friend of mine is about to buy a house with his fiance and they have a one year old child. my mom told me that his mom told her that one reason that they haven't gotten married is bc she has a large family and wants to have a huge wedding.

if you have kids while you're engaged give up on your big wedding dreams unless yall both make a good salary bc honestly other things start to take precedent. like why spend 20k on a wedding when u can buy a house?

i was engaged for months but 2-3 years is about my personal max.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote mizzsandra00 Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 4:03pm
Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

I don't think there's a too long or too short. Depends on the couple and what they want.

I don't mind long engagements.


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in that case epitome, I agree get married at the courthouse and have a re dedication when everything else simmers down and you've caught your breath financially

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Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

Engagement is an intent to marry.
You're seriously making up the immediate future part bc engagements used to be very lengthy.



I'm not making up anything.  At the end of the day, people are speaking on their perspective.  In my culture engagement of over a year is impossible.  Your family, his, and everyone who knows you would just assume the wedding isn't going to happen.  I've never had a family member or friend engaged for longer than 1 yr aside from one person who had to postpone their plans due to a death in the family.  Its unheard of.

My culture aside, for most of U.S. history, the etiquette has been to marry within a year.  Even now, many people marry within that time frame, so I don't see what's "made up" about that.

That's why I said 6 months. I've never seen a nigerian couple call an engagement and it lasted longer than 6 months. As soon as its announced then preparation starts and everyone chips in. For those with long engagements what the hayell are you guys doing?
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I feel like if I do the courthouse thing I will never have the wedding......like when people hold off on their honeymoon and they never have one.....
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