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Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:


Gyal who are you talking about? Not everyone does that. I can only speak for myself, and I NEVER pretend like everything was perfect in my relationship.
 

maybe this should be another topic....

but why should anyone else know there is trouble in your relationship?
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Originally posted by keepgrowing keepgrowing wrote:

If they are planning in those two years ok fine. But if he is getting agitated every time she brings up wedding plans and there is no date then ummmmmm........


Because this is the real issue.....Mr00 is like we can go to city hall now and have a big ceremony later...Im like relax we got time....my best eggs still in there...im tryna spend my reception money on ThailandEmbarrassed
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Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:

 I swear people will forever blame the woman for a man’s shortcomings, and inadequacies. It’s not always the MAN that doesn't want to get married, sometimes it’s the Woman. I know because I was in that situation. I was engaged for a few yrs. but I never was really excited about setting a date. Looking back God was trying to warn me. Thank God I was able to dodge the bullet.

Just because 2 people are engage, or in a relationship doesn’t mean everything is cupcakes, and Starburst. Ultimately people should do what is best for them according to their situation, not society’s standards of how things should be done.  

 




Why did you accept a proposal from a man you were not ready to marry?


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Originally posted by goodm3 goodm3 wrote:

Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:


Gyal who are you talking about? Not everyone does that. I can only speak for myself, and I NEVER pretend like everything was perfect in my relationship.
 

maybe this should be another topic....

but why should anyone else know there is trouble in your relationship?


some people like to discuss their relationship problems with family and friends

I'm guessing it is pretty common

I don't do it, but it seems like a lot of people do
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^ At the time I WAS ready to marry him. But like I said, over time people change and truth starts to reveal it self. For God sake I was only 21. So the things I know now, I didn't know then.

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Originally posted by goodm3 goodm3 wrote:

Originally posted by mizzsandra00 mizzsandra00 wrote:

Originally posted by goodm3 goodm3 wrote:

Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Decorum really alludes many young people nowadays.  I think what I've gotten from this thread is that some people see a marriage proposal as a romantic gesture.  That's just not the case.  Its not a "I would like to marry you some day."  A proposal is a big deal.  Its a formal declaration of  your intent to marry in the immediate future.  If both people are not ready for that, then they should stick to more informal gestures like romantic gifts. 


EXACTLY. 

i seems a lot of women only want to be called wifey rather than having a marriage license. 




When people actually get the proposal they really understand it.......until then its a case of if it was me but it aint you and daydreaming is easy


No shade......

I understand but I think a lot of women never set expectations for their relationships. there are women out there who seriously believe they will not ever get married so when a guy moves in...they think that's as good as it gets. 

Couples that really want to get married, do it. Whether its a court house wedding with a fancy ceremony/destination wedding later...either way, they make it official. 


People aint living together as a relationship step.....mugs just need to split the billsLOL

I would rather be engaged for 100 years before I have a courthouse wedding.....idgaf....judge away.....
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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by goodm3 goodm3 wrote:

Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:


Gyal who are you talking about? Not everyone does that. I can only speak for myself, and I NEVER pretend like everything was perfect in my relationship.
 

maybe this should be another topic....

but why should anyone else know there is trouble in your relationship?


some people like to discuss their relationship problems with family and friends

I'm guessing it is pretty common

I don't do it, but it seems like a lot of people do
 

I never said I discussed our personal problems with family, and friends. So yall need to stop jumping to conclusions. I simply said I didn't "pretend like everything was perfect". Which means I was realistic about the situation, and didn't create imaginary things in my head. When he became verbally, and psychically abusive I packed up my ish and left him. Unfortunately a lot of women stay in fatal relationships just to say “I’m married, engaged, or have a man” …Not me. I love my life too much.

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Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by goodm3 goodm3 wrote:

Originally posted by Majesty02 Majesty02 wrote:


Gyal who are you talking about? Not everyone does that. I can only speak for myself, and I NEVER pretend like everything was perfect in my relationship.
 

maybe this should be another topic....

but why should anyone else know there is trouble in your relationship?


some people like to discuss their relationship problems with family and friends

I'm guessing it is pretty common

I don't do it, but it seems like a lot of people do
 

I never said I discussed our personal problems with family, and friends. So yall need to stop jumping to conclusions. I simply said I didn't "pretend like everything was perfect". Which means I was realistic about the situation, and didn't create imaginary things in my head. When he became verbally, and psychically abusive I packed up my ish and left him. Unfortunately a lot of women stay in fatal relationships just to say “I’m married, engaged, or have a man” …Not me. I love my life too much.



my post wasn't about you
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I'm think about either a big wedding or get married at the courthouse during the week and have a big lavish black tie event at a nice space on the weekend.
 
My SO wants a big wedding mainly for his family but I really dont know.
I would be thrilled with just the party .
 
But engagment is down the road.
I want to finish all of my schooling first
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...the couple in the OP need to have a heart to heart so they can move forward together or separately.


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