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    Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 9:24am
I was listening to a discussion about this on the radio the other day.  A woman called in and said she dated a man for 3 yrs, he proposed and they have been living together and engaged for over 2 years.  Every time she brings up wedding planning he becomes elusive and difficult.  Her question was, "How long is too long to be engaged?"

I think she was asking that question a 2 years too late.  I seriously weep for my generation!  The entire point of becoming engaged is to formally announce and plan a wedding.  For the life of me, I don't understand how a woman winds up being someone's fiance for years. 

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About 5 years up to maybe 10.
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Well I want to be proposed to and married on the same day.

But for others, if they have to ask the question then it's been too long. I know some people have put off the actual wedding until the location they want becomes available.

Getting married only requires filling out some paperwork. If you want to be married, it doesn't take years.
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Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

I was listening to a discussion about this on the radio the other day.  A woman called in and said she dated a man for 3 yrs, he proposed and they have been living together and engaged for over 2 years.  Every time she brings up wedding planning he becomes elusive and difficult.  Her question was, "How long is too long to be engaged?"

I think she was asking that question a 2 years too late.  I seriously weep for my generation!  The entire point of becoming engaged is to formally announce and plan a wedding.  For the life of me, I don't understand how a woman winds up being someone's fiance for years. 

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clearly he doesn't want to marry her...

anything more than a year is too long imo..don't waste my time jare!


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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

Well I want to be proposed to and married on the same day.

But for others, if they have to ask the question then it's been too long. I know some people have put off the actual wedding until the location they want becomes available.

Getting married only requires filling out some paperwork. If you want to be married, it doesn't take years.


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Originally posted by CherryBlossom CherryBlossom wrote:

Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

I was listening to a discussion about this on the radio the other day.  A woman called in and said she dated a man for 3 yrs, he proposed and they have been living together and engaged for over 2 years.  Every time she brings up wedding planning he becomes elusive and difficult.  Her question was, "How long is too long to be engaged?"

I think she was asking that question a 2 years too late.  I seriously weep for my generation!  The entire point of becoming engaged is to formally announce and plan a wedding.  For the life of me, I don't understand how a woman winds up being someone's fiance for years. 

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clearly he doesn't want to marry her...

anything more than a year is too long imo..don't waste my time jare!




lol, you're so naija. 

That's what the radio host politely said.  Basically something to the effect of, "I think he proposed to shut you up."
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Yeah that's a thing some guys do and when they do marry it usually falls apart in a few years.
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Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

Yeah that's a thing some guys do and when they do marry it usually falls apart in a few years.

Or they end up dumping the long engagement woman then run off & marry the next chick they date right away. 
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Yeah he is not that into her bit she is a convenience
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well it sounds like he never really wanted to get married

probably just gave her a ring to shut her up

when people don't pick a date after being engaged for two months I think something is up

it's not that hard to pick a date

I think 12 to 18 months is the average time it takes to get married once people get engaged

there is a lot of planning that goes into so you need time

I officially moved in with my husband about 2 months after we got engaged, my dad wasn't too happy about it but it worked out


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