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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 11:07am
An engagement is a promise of marriage and the preparation time.
It's saying you're the one so let's prepare for our lifetime together.


I don't think an engagement should last forever but I don't think there is a precise time limit either

Whatever the ppl involved feel..

Edited by jonesable - Jun 19 2014 at 11:07am
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When there's too much familiarity, people tend to take each other for granted. He keeps stringing her along with "hope". He don't wanna marry her. And she should move on.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 11:08am
it's too long when you feel it's too long 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 11:10am
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

An engagement is a promise of marriage and the preparation time.
It's saying you're the one so let's prepare for our lifetime together.


I don't think an engagement should last forever but I don't think there is a precise time limit either

Whatever the ppl involved feel..


Traditionally there has always been a precise time limit.  Engagement is a formal declaration of an intent to marry, and the manner of legitimizing that intent is to actually do something about it.  In most cultures across the board people are married within 1 yr of being engaged.

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 11:10am
Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

An engagement is a promise of marriage and the preparation time.
It's saying you're the one so let's prepare for our lifetime together.


I don't think an engagement should last forever but I don't think there is a precise time limit either

Whatever the ppl involved feel..

This here.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 11:12am
Originally posted by Az~Maverick Az~Maverick wrote:

When there's too much familiarity, people tend to take each other for granted. He keeps stringing her along with "hope". He don't wanna marry her. And she should move on.

If thats so, then wouldnt marriage breed the ultimate contempt Shocked
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 11:13am
At the end of the day, everyone is different. If both people are happy then that's all that matters.
For me? It depends, but probably no longer than a year. 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 11:14am
Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

5 years keeps her mind that she is just one step from marriage and for me it's the barrier that allows me to keep evaluating if marriage is really for me while I get a home cooked meal and sex in the regular.


Yup. Basically, this is what it is.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 11:15am
Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

An engagement is a promise of marriage and the preparation time.
It's saying you're the one so let's prepare for our lifetime together.


I don't think an engagement should last forever but I don't think there is a precise time limit either

Whatever the ppl involved feel..


Traditionally there has always been a precise time limit.  Engagement is a formal declaration of an intent to marry, and the manner of legitimizing that intent is to actually do something about it.  In most cultures across the board people are married within 1 yr of being engaged.



I'm speaking of money modern American culture...
That intention of marriage doesn't necessarily have an expiration date.

Especially today when couples are paying more for their own weddings or have a large share in it.
Not only that but women are having children later in age which was also one reason marriages were rushed.
Things change

Edited by jonesable - Jun 19 2014 at 11:16am
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jun 19 2014 at 11:17am
Sounds like he must've proposed to her to get her out of his hair if he acts up everytime she brings up planning. If you've been engaged for two years and haven't made any attempts to even start trying to plan your wedding you don't need to be engaged.
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