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It's at about a zero. Maybe even negative.

I can love and be with someone, but I've never found marriage necessary. Even in elementary school, my second grade teacher would tell me that I'd " come around one day".

I think if I ever did it, it would be strictly because the man I love NEEDS that from me.

Age definitely is a factor. My friends who are my age or older, who want to get married, and are no where near are freaking out. One of my best friends can't stand to see someone announce their engagement on FB without getting a little bitter. SOME women feel like failures if they aren't married by a certain point.

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Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

I always wonder if men have these discussions amongst themselves.

 
Some dudes are very traditional and know early on that they want a family. For those types, there's a time for sowing your oats and there's a time for settling down. A lot of it has to do with how they were raised. Honestly, I avoided these men in my 20's because I was the opposite, lol.


my husband and many other black men I know think lile this

maybe they are not the majority but they exist
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]On a scale from 1-10
Do you think age has an impact on how important marriage is for an individual? 

Yes for me age mattered.
--I married in my late 30s, with a career established so marriage for me dropped from an "8" in my 20's to a "4" in my thirties.  I was growing more comfortable being single for so long and accepting the fact that I could possibly be single for the rest of my life.  Thats when I met my husband.


How long do you expect to get married after entering a relationship?

we got married a year and 2 months after we met.  I think the older you are the more sure you are about who you want to spend the rest of your life with.  I think in hindsight however it probably would have been good for us to wait another year before we tied the knot.



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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

I want to get married.
I want a life partner .
I want to build a life together with someone

I want to wait until I'm ready to get married.
Don't care if its 2 years or 6 years.
I will when I'm ready

THIS.
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Originally posted by Tbaby Tbaby wrote:

]On a scale from 1-10
Do you think age has an impact on how important marriage is for an individual? 

Yes for me age mattered.
--I married in my late 30s, with a career established so marriage for me dropped from an "8" in my 20's to a "4" in my thirties.  I was growing more comfortable being single for so long and accepting the fact that I could possibly be single for the rest of my life.  Thats when I met my husband.


How long do you expect to get married after entering a relationship?

we got married a year and 2 months after we met.  I think the older you are the more sure you are about who you want to spend the rest of your life with.  I think in hindsight however it probably would have been good for us to wait another year before we tied the knot.









I like your response! But why do you feel that another year would've been better to wait?
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At my age,

I'd say a 5.   And each year that will increase by one point.

I think I'll be ready to settle at 25.

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I know I want to get married; I know that fact, but the idea of having sex with just one person for the rest of my life is a little off putting. But I do want to get married though. I do see myself getting married within the next 3 years and that shyt is scary; I hope I can remain faithful.
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^^that used to be my fear of marriage
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote CherryBlossom Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: May 18 2013 at 2:04am
At this point, it's low like a 5 or something but I do hope to get married someday...I could definitely see myself getting married before 30, kids on the other hand probably not.

Right now I have other priorities plus I like having my own space, the thought of having someone around me 24/7 for the rest of my life is a little too much to handle.LOL

I do want what my folks have someday, they're a team and I love that. Embarrassed
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All my aspirations are designed around me getting married and having kids.
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