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rickysrose 
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 Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 1:12pm |
I bring up coworkers because they're people you know but not necessarily close with and you do have squabbles and ok times with them
Closer than strangers yet not necessarily friends that you spend all day with
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 1:12pm |
Does anyone else ask permission or give warnings? 
I always warn my husband if I'm feeling clingy. He finds it much
funnier and endearing than if I just randomly start doing it without
explanation. It might still annoy him a bit, but he's way more receptive.
For someone who isn't adept at picking up on nonverbal cues, it's really
helpful. I also just flat out ask him for what I need. "You should
buy me flowers sometime soon." "I want to do something that involves
dressing up for our anniversary." He can't read my mind, so I help out a
bit.
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 1:14pm |
 rickysrose wrote:
I genuinely did not know a hug was this serious
And I mean this in the most shade free way possible
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It is for some. Some people do not like to be touched or to touch other people in that way. Like at all. Not family members, not spouses, not even their own children. And they're not autistic, suffering from ptsd, or been a victim of abuse or have anything "wrong" with them. They just don't like it.
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wow 15 years?
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 1:49pm |
maysay1 wrote:
rickysrose wrote:
I genuinely did not know a hug was this serious
And I mean this in the most shade free way possible
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It is for some. Some people do not like to be touched or to touch other people in that way. Like at all. Not family members, not spouses, not even their own children. And they're not autistic, suffering from ptsd, or been a victim of abuse or have anything "wrong" with them. They just don't like it.
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i could understand this thought process a little better than....being affectionate with that other person/thing but not this one (as in the one they are sleeping with lol). not saying this was part of the wifes reasoning...just responding to something that was thrown out there in this thread.
also, i didn't get the sense from the write up that this was her (the wifes) issue...
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 1:52pm |
EPITOME wrote:
rickysrose wrote:
You can get happiness from making your spouse happy
Compromise doesn't have to mean losing |
you can get happiness from making other people happy. point.blank.period. doesn't even have to be your spouse. |
alas...this is my thinking...
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 2:09pm |
I get so amused reading these marriage threads and most of the single ladies posting "divorce" like thats the correct answer when a marriage isn't sailing along honky dorie.
Their marriage isn't bad--nobody is getting screamed at or hit, no one is cheating, no one is an addict...actually its just existing with 2 persons who love each other yet their personalities are polar opposites basically.
Visiting a marriage counselor would do wonders. Compromise is what they aren't doing--thus both are miserable.
My hubby is a groper as weill...maybe its a male thing
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 3:19pm |
Sunshine I'm usually not all the way naked, but Im "naked" for me lol
LOL I better edit before I hear "put some clothes on" in an e-battle
Meanwhile I do wear clothes in the house, just very little
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 3:23pm |
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i keep thinking this says "how do you make it to work"...i was preparing my answer in my head.
Edited by ms_wonderland - Jan 14 2013 at 3:23pm
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 4:32pm |
nycdiva357 wrote:
this thread is kinda disgusting--
when I think about all the other bhm threads where ppl talk about how marriages of today aren't shyt--
and how marriages of the past were great-- thats why they last so long.
it would be a different case if she was trying-- and they weren't getting anywhere- but she is not.
yet a lot of ppl are screaming divorce.
what happened to ppl compromising and meeting half way?
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this is what most people in here are saying tho...
...i think?
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