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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


he is clingy

she is not the most affectionate person and isn't that sexually attracted to him anymore

but they have been doing this for over 15 years, I don't see either changing without therapy

they co parent and are roommates at this point
 
i would actually buy this if she didn't become anxious when he is off doing something that doesn't involve her.  maybe he isn't clingy at all...
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well this is getting into what I was asking

for wf's friend does he hate/dislike/distrust/have no respect for his SO's?  

would he be affectionate with an SO he cares about - like he is with his sister and kids?

the part about the OP that throws me, is that the wife in the OP says she loves her husband yet still recoils - even when he was in shape



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RR's asking for insight tho Samone....? i'd love to know as well...the closest ive come to an answer from the guy im talking about is, "thats just how i am"
is that all there is to it or...?
just curious
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this i'm affectionate with my mom, dad, sister, brother, child, cat, 2nd cousin on my step daddy's side...but not my SO crap...is some bs...lol
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Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:





well this is getting into what I was asking

for wf's friend does he hate/dislike/distrust/have no respect for his SO's?  

would he be affectionate with an SO he cares about - like he is with his sister and kids?

the part about the OP that throws me, is that the wife in the OP says she loves her husband yet still recoils - even when he was in shape





1. He might

2. If he wants to be. Meaning he acknowledges his behavior and the need for change

3. Everyone isn't a big fan of physical affection for different reasons. Doesn't mean they don't care
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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

I never said or insinuated that people should be like me

I asked for insight on how other people think




your missing the point

our experiences shape our perceptions

yours are making it so it is hard to understand this woman's behavior

understanding it doesn't mean you agree with it or do it yourself


you asked if I expected everyone to be like me which I never said or insinuated

I said it myself that my experience shaped my perception and that I did not understand the wife in the OP and I want to, that is why I asked for insight into the mindset



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Originally posted by Wildfire Wildfire wrote:

RR's asking for insight tho Samone....? i'd love to know as well...the closest ive come to an answer from the guy im talking about is, "thats just how i am"
is that all there is to it or...?
just curious


maybe they haven't done the work to figure out why they are they way they are

maybe they don't want to tell you
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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:

Originally posted by Wildfire Wildfire wrote:

RR's asking for insight tho Samone....? i'd love to know as well...the closest ive come to an answer from the guy im talking about is, "thats just how i am"
is that all there is to it or...?
just curious


maybe they haven't done the work to figure out why they are they way they are

maybe they don't want to tell you


as far as im concerned, it reeks of utter selfishness and not being too right in the head, and i feel strongly about this based on the behaviour of this one individual.
the wife in the OP sounds very selfish as well. It isnt about the hugs or lack thereof. Its an overall picture of being all about herself.

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I think she has too much emotion and for some reason can not express it outwardly.
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well...these people are in therapy trying to figure it out.    if HIS only issue is that he wants more affection and HER only issue is that she wants him to loose weight...giving up on 15 years of marriage seems rediculous imo.
 
BOTH OF THEM need to be willing to put in the work and effort to correct these minor issues...it's not rocket science...


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