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 Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 7:04am |
 **Sk!TtLeS B** wrote:
Derri wrote:
my unresolved childhood trauma comment was in regards to the husband.
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Ricky didnt understand how people couldnt be naturally affectionate. I took it as her thinking there's something wrong with these people, instead of them just being different. |
not sure why that is hard to understand
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 7:43am |
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damn---id be embarrassed to say im getting divorced bc i wont hug my dh. |
epecially if i was also saying he needed to go find some bizness yet seemingly obsessing (getting anxious) when he does. she needs to work that out....
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 7:55am |
a rare case of mommy issues....intradesting
jr.
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 8:42am |
nicca said rare case 
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 9:03am |
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He isn't laying wood properly. Sex feeling like a chore means sex is feeling not so good and/or the sexual attraction is not there. I believe she loves him and misses him, but more as her partner/friend..she doesn't view him as her lover...
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 9:06am |
can you guys go into more detail than "it just is"
I still don't see why a hug, kiss, a kind word is hard, especially when the other person is asking for it and would happily receive it
strangers I can see but I'm not getting how this is hard for a spouse that you love and loves you
I am asking what is the mindset behind it?
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 9:07am |
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he is clingy
she is not the most affectionate person and isn't that sexually attracted to him anymore
but they have been doing this for over 15 years, I don't see either changing without therapy
they co parent and are roommates at this point
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 9:08am |
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do you think everyone should be as affectionate as you?
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 9:15am |
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she may show how feels in other ways
some people are not comfortable with a lot hugging and such
if they want to work on that for themselves, they will
I think if she changes only for him, the change will be short lived
she has to want to hug and kiss more for her own sake
otherwise it will be forced
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Posted: Jan 14 2013 at 9:19am |
no I don't think everyone should be as affectionate as me but because I'm affectionate, I don't quite understand the mindset of refusing to hug or kiss or say something nice to someone that I've known and lived with for 15 years
I'm really asking a question ... what is the mindset, why would she NOT hug him
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