How do you feel about telling

I'm going to say it's about competition.
And sometimes it's really ridiculous.
I remember at my old job, I once asked one of my work 'friends' where she downloaded her music, and she told me  her brother put the music on for her. Couple days later, I overheard one of her more 'down' friends asking her about music, and she told them a website where she downloads all of her music. I had to shake my head to myself. I can only assume she didn't see me as much of a work friend, since she felt she had to keep the website top secret.

Funny enough, the same woman has very bad back acne on her back and shoulders, and she asked me what I recommend. I wanted to call her on it, but ppl like to catch amnesia suddenly, and it was at work and I didn't want the drama. I told her some things to use on her back.
 
I have experienced so many occasions where I knew a black woman purposely bullshhited me on the answer to beauty places, clothing stores etc. I feel like they want to be the 'baddest' and if they tell, then I'll be looking like them too.

I don't really like to see everyone looking alike, and I tend to stay away from most trends because of it, but there is nothing new under the sun. It's the nature of being human to be inspired by each other. Another woman and I can look similar, I don't mind. But I've noticed that women who see me as a 'threat' don't ever share things with me.





Edited by Derri - Feb 12 2013 at 2:04pm

Alias_Avi wrote: Don't feel like making a new thread so I'll ask this here... I've been meaning to ask this for awhile but do you guys feel some type of way about other Black women coming up to you either touching your hair or asking you questions about your hair... in public? Like... Omg! You're hair's so pretty! Is it yours? How did you get that hairstyle? This has always bothered me, as it is very tacky and rude. I think the general consensus among Black women must be that we are Black women therefore we have a sisterhood, a camaraderie, between us from the jump. Therefore, we can ask these (what I perceive to be) very personal questions in a public forum. While that's all fine and dandy, I still think there needs to be understanding of public etiquette. How can I tell these women absolutely nothing about me without coming off as a b*tch?

Oh, and if I've experienced someone being a total bitch (whether to me or someone else) I rarely help them unless I have to. I never help or give tips to co-workers who bully other co-workers.

It depends on what kind of help a mean person is asking for.

A work related issue, where I work with this person in a team, well I'll usually help.

If it's a question like, 'Hey, what beauty product should I use for this issue?' I may say something like, 'I don't know, why not go see a doctor?'

If it's a question like 'Where did you get that?' I may say, it was a gift, or I may say I don't remember.  I may even 'joke' with them and say, after the way you just treated so and so, you don't deserve to know *stick tongue out* and laugh


Edited by Derri - Feb 12 2013 at 3:12pm

I don't mind telling because they can't go there anyway.
I just get mad when they trip about the prices....why the hell did you ask?