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Time will heal just remember it's the end of a relationship not the end of the World

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came across this and thought of you  sorry not clickable
 
 
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Spend more time with friends and family.

Reach out to good male friends/potentials (some ppl may not agree but talking to other men during a breakup helped me a lot).-- this helped when I needed male attention.
 
Also continue/start exercise and keep in shape. 
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It takes time. You have to leatn to cope by doing something to keep yourself busy or just sorting through your feelings.
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The energy you are putting towards a man that sees you as a non-factor in his life needs to be put towards something like school or work that will actually leave you something to show for all your hard work. 
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Originally posted by binky622 binky622 wrote:

yeah first you have to get up take a shower and get out and walk around the block at least to get fresh air.

I know it hurts now we have all been through this the worse thing i did was not own the hurt, acknowledge it mentally so you can begin to mend.  You will  never figure out the wheres or whys of other folks decisions so don't try to in your healing process.  Try not to contact him, and close that door.  I GUARANTEE THIS AS SOON AS YOU ARE OVER HIM HE WILL BE BACK. THEN YOU CAN TELL HIM good bye




this.

take a few days and really do that. be sad, cry, listen to depressing music, whatever.

after a few days, you should really begin to try to distract yourself. have you pushed fav. hobbies/activities to the side when you were w/ the ex? do all the things that you didn't do w/ your boyfriend. enjoy being single. one day, you won't think about him

please don't contact him. it will only prolong the whole ordeal.
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You have to busy yourself with other things. If you just hang out around the house, your thoughts will inevitable wander to him. Often.

Find a job. Get a part-time job. Something. It'll take your mind off of him.

Also, find something to specifically divert your attention to. Like, when you want to call him, find a different friend/relative to call. This would be a good time to check in on old friends and family that you haven't spoken to in a while.

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I always thought doing new activities and getting out more would help when I was going through
 
but it didn't, it only temporarily kept my mind busy while I was busy......
 
Once the day is over and all the dust settles, and you are laying down in bed those thoughts and feelings will come back.
 
It's never good to sit around and be depressed, but the only true healer is time.
 
As the time goes you will get better and better
 
In the meantime, fix yourself up!!
go pamper yourself!!
 
Get a manicure/pedicure , try a new hair color or style or cut, buy clothes that make you look and feel good!
 
look your best self, that could also help boost you up. It helped with me.
 
I honestly feel better inside and out when I'm having a good hair day, or when I know my outfit is on point.
 
 
One last tip you must try is it always helps to write down your feelings. As stupid as it sounds, IT WORKS!! Yes it does.Clap
 
I never thought it would until I tried it. Try it!!
 
I have a lot of unsent texts saved as drafts on my phone right now as I type
 
Act like you are about to send him a text and type exactly how you feel about him word for word. Doesn't matter how long it is, get ALL of your feelings out.
 
This works wonders, anytime I slip back into a trance I get my phone out and start typing away.
 
 
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Cry
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@modelessDiva thank you for ur advice, I think ur right. The part about writing down how you feel, that didnt make u miss him moreQuestion
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