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Originally posted by ceme ceme wrote:

My Great Grandmother was really light and could have passed for white. She had the blue/grey eyes and everything. She would often tell of putting mud on her skin cause she wanted to be darker. My great grandfather is really dark so...
 
My mom is what some call red boned. My dad is dark.
 
My MIL is light and my FIL is dark
 
 
SIL is dark and her husband is light
 
 

This was the same for my grandmother. Living in Virginia, she told her children that white men would harass her for hanging with the kneegrows (her siblings who were darker in complexion) and they would make sexual remarks.  She said she found the darkest man in VA to have her children by.

My father is dark, my mother is light.
My brother is light, his wife is really dark
My other brother is brown, his gf is brown
I'm "yellow" and my husband is "yellow"Confused

But I never had a preference...Light, dark, fat, skinny....I like em all.


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So will anyone venture to guess why this happens? Do you feel certain people might feel like they have something to prove?
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I feel ppl just like what they like. Some ppl like thin mates, some like thicker ones. Some like short hair, some like long. IMO, it's no difference.
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Originally posted by Cream1970 Cream1970 wrote:

I feel ppl just like what they like. Some ppl like thin mates, some like thicker ones. Some like short hair, some like long. IMO, it's no difference.


I would think that if the patterns were random, but the patterns are too distinct. I personally think some dark women feel validated when light men like them, for example. Jmo.
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Originally posted by SweetNovember* SweetNovember* wrote:

tend to like light men?

I know this is a huge generalization but I mean generally speaking? For instance I have never heard a dark woman say about a man, "Oh he's too light" or "I don't like light skinned men."

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Umm actually, you have 2 questions here:
 
- 'How come light women like dark men and dark women tend to like light men?' The answer is obvious. For some people .. opposites ATTRACT. That's why (outside of America) so many White guys are with Black woman and so many White women are with Black men. This is really very basic Psychology 101.
 
- ' ... I have never heard a dark woman say about a man, "Oh he's too light" or "I don't like light skinned men. ' Well, this is because in Black America - Black women are socialized to like darker men and Black men are socialized to like lighter women.
 
The above does not apply to everyone of course, but to a signifigant extent .. yes. 
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I agree with Becky that many of our preferences are caused by socialization. I don't agree with her that outside of the US, White men are flocking to Black women. The Black women in Western Europe have many of the same complaints as Black women in the US.
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I'm brown skinned and I love them chocolate as ever. I'm also thick and like my men skinny. Wiz Khalifa skinny
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Lol, my teen is a lite brite and tends to like the darker guys. Lol, I do to but men like lil boosie is plan ugly! She only sees the dark skin.
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i dont discriminate, i regulate every shade of that ass
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I think this is true.
My grandmother is light, grandfather is dark they had my father, who is light.
He married my mother, who is  a deep red brown. 
I am light and I much prefer dark men. My bf has the sexiest smooth dark brown skin Big smile.
 
My sister is dark... light or dark, she just likes men in general.
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